Sex Variant & GNC Men Are Gender-marginalized. Period. As In, Marginalized For Being Men. Manhood Is

AND we need to stop having radfem ideals as the main feminist movement. not only do they often believe this, they also PUSH it as what men will ALWAYS do

radfeminism is no longer about the patriarchy, its about hating men.

radfems often just became or already are sexist, transphobic, and homophobic.

ive seen radfems say that “all men” are the same which INCLUDE CHILDREN!! a CHILD showed signs of sexual abuse but they didnt care BECAUSE it was a male child who went to a female child and pulled her head to his crotch and said “suck”

NO TODDLER WILL DO THAT UNLESS THEY WERE TAUGHT TO AKA SEXUAL. ABUSE.

and radfems OFTEN do and say stuff that tell men that it is completely fine for them to do what they expect all men to do (the crimes that men are statistically more likely to do) which then tells women that they should expect it from them (which then can become victim blaming or even accepting abuse since its “expected”)

the “all men” ideology* is harmful and actively tells men and young boys that it is in their blood and biology to BE harmful people.

one thing people often say (that i agree with) is that we need to stop teaching women to accept abuse from men/defending them and to teach men to stop being abusive. the radfem ideology doesnt do that. it actively tells men that they WILL act that way since its what they always do. it actively HARMS that ideology

*this does not include the “all men” when it comes to randomly in the street, in public, etc. the ideology that you do not know that person therefore they may harm you IS valid. it ISNT valid to say that every man HAVE TO / WILL act a certain way as it tells young boys that they WILL act that way therefore telling them that it is completely fine to act that way. it is just a rebrand of “boys will be boys”

not only that, what about trans people?

do trans men count towards the “not all men” (according to them, it doesnt lmao)

then when you ask them why it often has to do with the fact that we are trans.

if you have to bring up someones PAST identity, the identity they NO LONGER IDENTIFY AS to defend WHY you dont include them in you ideology that has to do with the gender they currently are, then you dont see them as their current identity, only the previous one

as much as i would love to bring up issues that trans women deal with due to radfeminism, i have no clue how to bring it into the conversation as im not a trans women and, due to shitty memory, only remember my own experiences as a trans man when it comes to radfemisim. the og post i reblogged has a wonderful comment speaking on the fact that this also is trans misogyny as it claims that AMABs will always act a certain way, so does it apply to trans women?

again, radfeminism is just transphobia and sexism masked as feminism

it harms everyone. women especially. its essentially telling them that they should expect and accept abuse from men since “it’s what they do”

also, if any radfems see this, im blocking you lmao

this isnt a discussion, argument, etc. between us. i do not care what you have to say

only saying this because ive see a radfem before try to defend themselves in a post talking about the harm of the ideology as a trans man

people gotta stop acting like every single thing a man does is sexually motivated. it's not helping the men who do focus on making things sexually oriented that shouldn't be grow past the behavior. we gotta stop equating every single thing men do to somehow having to do with sex on some level. this is profiling whether or not we want to admit it, and it IS making the problem worse, because it REINFORCES this behavior in men who DO act like this. challenge the notion that all men care about is sex, not reinforce it. all you're doing is being absolutely fucking nasty, and you're especially walking all over sex repulsed men, asexual spectrum men, and men who have sexual trauma.

"transphobes only see trans women as a threat to (cis) women, not trans men." wrong. we are seen as gender traitors, mentally unwell, evil etc. people who will groom young naive girls into mutilating their bodies as well as dumb childish women who don't know what's good for them and who are ruining their bodies. we are both seen as a threat to our own "womanhood" as well as others. please don't forget/erase us when discussing this topic.

my stereotypical trans name was elliot with the nickname as eli when i first came out back in 2020/2021

(i detransitioned due to transphobia but again, story for another day)

and it stuck with me

it isnt the name i use today but i use it in other ways

like the email i made when i came out includes it

i dont like it for me anymore but it was the name that helped me discover who i truly am

so

i dont mind the name elliot / eli

if i planned on changing my middle name,

id probably make it that

what i’ll probably do is tell people that my middle name is eli but not change it

my middle name means too much to my family, especially my mother that i cant imagine changing it

(but thats a story for another day)

The evolution of (trans) man.

(Well, this one, anyway.)

Age 9: "Tomboy"

Age 15: Strictly enforced femininity

Age 30: Hitting the mental limits of being closeted all his life and about to crash HARD

Age 47: Fifteen years now since starting transition. Far more good days than bad, no regrets.

The world may be full of uncertainty and danger, but I resolve to continue to find joy in who I am. Be joyful to be kind to yourself and be joyful to spite the bastards who would tear us apart.

my issue with my anxiety is that the way i typically deal with it at home, i cannot do the same thing at work / in public.

its the reason why i want to start anxiety meds but my mom said that i should try looking at other coping mechanisms first before jumping into something that changes my brain chemistry (shes a nurse and shes for finding other ways to deal with issues before taking something that changes your brain chemistry. which i understand and agree with!!)

im just tired of the anxiety tbh i just wanna live a normal life without the constantly shaking, not being able to breathe properly, fear, etc.

for whoever needs to hear this:

starting HRT doesn't have to be a huge momentous all-or-nothing decision. you can just try it like you would an antidepressant you've been informed of the risks of.

there won't be any immediate irreversible changes overnight. you can always stop, change your dose, change your delivery system, decide it's not the right time. you can even microdose if you want to.

you don't have to tell anyone. you don't have to announce it if you don't want to.

stop waiting for a perfect time in your life because it won't come.

stop waiting to reach a mythical level of certainty that never comes to anyone, for anything.

you've been thinking about it long enough. if you have the opportunity, just give it a shot. you're worth the courage it takes to make a change in your life.

sorry to get political again but as a binary trans girl with a modicum of common sense:

theyfab is a gross thing to call someone and if you call people that you’re gross

i get really upset whenever my “friend” (will get into that at a later date) or family who im out to whos aware that im trans uses the wrong pronouns for me

i used to think i wasnt upset by she/her pronouns, actively thought that i might be comfortable enough with them that i would use them but not identify as a woman but, im not.

im not comfortable with them being used on me

even some feminine terms im not comfortable being used on me

its more like im comfortable conforming for others, something i need to unlearn since its the reason why i detransitioned back in 2022. to make others comfortable.

im actively aware that it gets some getting used to so i dont complain about it at all, especially since my mom makes an active effort to correct herself

but i feel like the “friend” should especially be aware to at least try to use the correct pronouns for me especially since we spoke about my ex and the reason we broke up was due to my transition THEN spoke about the heinous thing he did to me after our breakup and she was so angry, literally saying that he doesnt see me as a man

any other trans person or queer in general plan on purchasing a firearm for protection at this point? 😇?

There's something about the Kirby plush in the background that really sells this

In 2021, my country debated on a law to open medically assisted procreation to women couples and single mothers. When it was debated we asked for it to broaden the conditions to include trans men and transmascs since the only mention of women excluded whose who had changed their gender markers.

We were consistently told by cis and trans women alike to stop making reproductive rights about men, that it was their fight.

The law passed. And we celebrated, and they celebrated, and we held back tears, we'd never be fathers.

In 2024, my country debated on putting abortion in the constitution.

The minister of families received 2 renowned TERFs and tried to change the law go forbid professionnals to refuse an abortion to "women", so trans men whose gender markers were changed could be denied. And we fought, and we fought for the definition to be changed and we won, and we celebrated in

Deafening silence.

“If men could be pregnant it’d be in the constitution already !”

If only you knew.

After I got assaulted, I wanted to take a self defense lesson.

They were “cis and trans women only”, because a man like me shouldn't know how to hit. I went to the gym and I punched a dummy until my knuckles turned purple.

I got a sleep exam. Under anesthesia, the doctor asked me if he should say “sir or ma’am”. I’m tied up on the bed. I asked him to say “sir”. He tells me “I guessed so, you’re such a pretty boy” and he stroke my arm. I want to scream and cry. When I recall the scene to people I'm stealth with, they say I just dreamed, he wouldn't do that, I'm a man. I'm a hysterical woman with extra steps.

I catter to my wounds alone and I wonder

If I got to the point of being hatecrimed

If people would argue on my grave

For it to be called

A feminicide.