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I want to give my 2 cents about the debate “would you prefer to be in the woods with a bear or a man?” So I wanted to give some reasons why picking a bear is the obvious answer:
Beforehand— The point is: it’s not that I will survive against the bear, it’s that I know how the bear will kill me.
• the bear will hurt you because he thinks you’re dangerous, the man will hurt because he knows your not.
• Both won’t stop if you say no, but the bear doesn’t understand what that means and the man does.
• With a bear the only fear is death.
• A bear sees a threat, a man sees an opportunity.
•The bear smelt fear, the man saw fear.
• A bear is violent by nature, a man is violent by choice.
• We can trust a bear to be a bear but can’t trust a human man to be humane.
• The worse thing a bear can do is kill you.
• The bear is doing it for survival, not fun.
• A bear will not seek my suffering.
• A bear can be reasoned with.
• The bear only has two thoughts: prey or escape.
• If I told someone a bear attacked me, they would believe me.
• They would find my body.
• Bears are more predictable.
• Bears is more likely to leave me alone.
• Bears only attack if that are hungry or scared.
• Bears will not act differently when it finds out you’re alone.
Bears attacking humans are 1 in 2.1 million.
Men attacking humans (women) are 1 in 4.
Oklahoma is attempting to pass a bill that would ban explicit romance novels. Authors, narrators, and sellers could all face fines of up to $100,000 and up to 10 years in jail for each instance.
If you live in OK, call your representative and tell them this bill should not be allowed to pass.
This is likely a test case. Republicans will try to pass it in OK and if it passes other states will likely try to pass similar laws.
In the meantime, get physical copies of books you like. Download those pdfs. Archive your AO3 stories and keep them on a physical hard drive. (Storing those files in the cloud could be problematic in the future as the company managing the cloud service can see what your files are)
All I hear is "I see other women as props and I believe being a lesbian means assimilating my behaviour to that of a straight man while upholding patriarchal sexual standards so men still find me palatable"
Who actually believes this wattpad ass story
How do you cope with misogyny? I find myself getting depressed when I realize how much everyone hates women and that the world would never change.
meh I'm just really angry all the time.
Serious answer: I try to uplift/help/support the women in my life and I engage in activism and politics, I think it's normal to grieve what we could've had if we didn't live in a patriarchal system but our actions can and will be meaningful for so many women and that's something, it's a lot actually.
Less serious answer: I think of mysoginistic men when I hit the boxing bag hehe
We're not making it out of the patriarchy
It's funny bc I'm white but I've never turned to the KKK bc black people don't center me in their activism
I couldn't have said it better myself.
Feminists have never treated men the way mysoginists treat women, so yeah, I think this was abundantly clear.
Hello there! Dear tumblr user, did you know that "men as a class hold privilege and power over women" and "men are human beings who deserve basic decency" are two stances that can coexist :)
one time my university invited a motivational speaker and he started by talking about historical figures he found inspirational (like in business/economics) and then asked "what do they have in common?" and a girl in the crowd shouted "they're all men!"
Not sure who she was but I'll never forget her
remember when as kids my male cousins would make fun of me for growing body hair before them and would get offended when I told them they were just jealous
This mentality is really telling of the fact that you haven't done any politics or activism in real life.
I've been sitting with party representatives, union representatives and fellow members of movements I belong(ed) to for almost 10 years at this point.
Not a single one of these spaces didn't cater to males.
Engage in some politics outside of tumblr and/or niche organisations, I grant you your opinion will flip in 10 seconds max.
Alright this is gonna be tough for alot of ya'll to hear but leftist and progressive spaces need to be more welcoming to men especially cis het white men. The more we speak bad about men the more men will go down the alt right pipeline. And obviously that's a bad thing. If we want men to be on our side we should create a space where they can also feel included because if we don't more men will go down the alt right and alpha male pipeline
i'm currently on a train and i'm surrounded by women studying various stem things, maybe we'll make it out after all
OR people who don't think their voices deserve to be heard, or that feel like the political system is inaccessible to them.
I can't count how many times I've heard this from underprivileged women and girls.
People who ‘don’t do politics’ are so privileged. I said what I said.
Why is "patriarchy affects men too" always about men feeling ashamed of crying and never about gay (or "effeminate") teenage boys being subject to violence and corrective therapy by their families?
I'm all in favour of discussing how conforming to gender roles is a core belief of patriarchal ideology and gender non-conforming people (men too) are subjected to patriarchal violence.
But strangely "feminism is for everybody" is always about watering down feminist issues.
cultural relativism fans when they find out that all men-made power structures have oppressing women as a core principle: 😱😱
me: yeah I think all religions are bad and oppressive of women and we should hold them accountable for that.
libfem: …..even islam???
me: well yeah all religions.
libfem: that’s soooo racist and you’re clearly a white supremacist!!! you can’t speak out against misogyny if it’s from a different culture!! 🥺🥺
being an overall skinny woman with some muscle on your arms condemns you to descend into hell whenever you have to buy a blouse/shirt
because beauty standards and shit
"all girls are bad at math" <- actual real women are discouraged to pursue stem careers and if they do, they feel an enormous amount of pressure
"all women are bad at driving" <- actual real women are discouraged to get a driving license, which limits their freedom because they depend on husbands/fathers
"all men are trash" <- that one guy who's probably trash doesn't feel venerated in the niche leftist online space which he mistakes for real life
fixed it for you.
men: *create degrading stereotypes about women, abuse women, overall harm women* women: men fucking su-
people for some reason: WOWWWW THESE GENDER WARS HAVE GOT TO STOP 🥺 THESE ARE EQUALLY AS BAD
What's the context behind your profile picture? :)
So glad you asked!!
It's by italian photoreporter Tino Petrelli, it was taken around the 25th of April 1945 in Milan, after antifascist rebel groups liberated Italy.
After the liberation, these groups surrendered their weapons to the Allies as part of an agreement, which is what the women in the picture are doing (although the specific picture may be staged).
One of them is Anna Maria Leone, 17 at the time, who was part of the "Women's defense group", after the war she worked as an actress and writer and was active in the feminist movement. It's not clear who the other two women are.
Forever thanks to my parents for continuously shitting on all the helpless-princess-saved-by-prince and hypersexualised-japanese-girls-do-things cartoons throughout all my childhood 🙏🏻
Did your parents forbid you from watching certain cartoons? 
crazy how when I was a kid my classmates would ask if my mom was a boy because she had a buzzcut and now young leftists ask her for pronouns constantly 💀💀 (and she's not even androgynous, just a woman with short hair and no makeup)
also crazy how she's been telling people "women can have short hair, you know" for the past 40 years and people without fail look at her as if she was absolutely deranged
imagine going from being called "mean man hating lesbian" in your 20s to "mean transphobic old woman" in your 60s
The concept of gender affirming haircuts is crazy
German anti-prostitution-sticker reading "Johns (as in clients of prostitutes) aren't comrades, Pimps deserve to be shot"
It’s because they have this “perfect victim” mentality towards women of color. They’re just so innocent, kind, and helpless, accepting of everyone because they’re just so desperate for help they will accept minor amounts of abuse instead of major— I mean, they’ve always been accepting of these things!!
Whereas in reality women of color are just as able to form opinions based on logic as anybody else. In my opinion they don’t deserve to be treated like some child that needs saving, by people who liken them to men but in a progressive way this time. They’re allowed to have the focus solely on them, to demand more solely on their own merit and not that of nebulous “black trans women” (half of which were self-admittedly just transvestite, looking at you, people who screech about Marsha P Johnson)
Also women of color are the most effected by the sex trade, but nobody wants to talk about that because then they’d have to stop jacking off to their favorite victim and telling themselves it’s moral because it’s inclusive. So instead they twist our words and ignore us. There’s plenty of radfem women of color and I’d even argue it’s more normalized within every other group except white women, in my experience and research. Especially when you look outside of America (like the so-called transphobic 4B movement from South Korea). People are just willfully short sighted to serve their own choices and preconceived notions of the world.
The idea that radical feminism is just for white women and that all radical feminists talk about is white women is so laughable to me. I hate to break it to these people but equating the idea of a fight for gender equality with white western culture and labelling the misogynistic elements of non western cultures as progressive and based is actually so harmful. I care about all women, I’m not going to turn a blind eye to women of colour being oppressed by their own cultures out of fear of being labelled a racist sorry.
Ughhhh I’m working on a longer piece about the presence of patriarchy/rape culture in the LGBTQ community (and I know a lot of you are separatists, and I also am, but since it’s socially considered a community we all get lumped in together, hence the problems I’m talking about)
But anyway I’ve been stewing over it for like 2 weeks and thinking of what I want to say but there’s just so much it’s hard to figure out how to lay it all out in a way that makes sense and flows well so people will actually want to stick around and read the whole thing 😭😭 send help
Gyns…. I had a date and finally got kissed on the lips by a girl for the first time yesterday 🤭🤭🤭 y’all have to deal with my rant now lol
I made her a bouquet of her favorite flowers and took her to dinner at a Thai place nearby my house, and then we went to see “Sinners” afterwards (good movie btw) and ugh it was so healing and peaceful after how anxious I always felt trying to date men.
She’s so pretty too, 70s-90s vintage femme to my 70s-90s vintage butch lol. And she respects that I’m a stone top; while she didn’t previously understand the Stone/Princess dynamic before meeting me, she said it’s actually something she’d wanted but didn’t know had a name. She’s also spiritual like I am, and she’s got big 1920s pouty eyes and a nose piercing and UGH y’all I think I have a crush 😭 We’ve been talking for about 6 weeks now but she was preparing for finals at college about an hour’s drive away so we couldn’t meet up until after she got through with them and moved back home for the summer nearer to where I live.
Anyway tho we were sitting in her car waiting for my dad to pick me up after the movie, and she kept stalling even after he arrived so I figured she wanted a kiss, so I asked her, and she said yes but she wanted me to close my eyes because she was shy, so I did and she grabbed my cheek and gave me a few all one after the other and UGH I just love being a lesbian so much.
It’s also really healing to take the part of the “pursuer” in this circumstance (which obviously isn’t necessarily a thing butches or tops have to do, I just happen to be a stereotype lol) after past experiences that left me a little shaken. This time around I get to take that role and do it right, and I think I’m already doing a good enough job because she trusted me to hold her purse when she went to the restroom lol.
Idk I’m just really happy and it’s like that deep, calm happiness where everything just feels right for the first time in your life and you can just enjoy the experience.
It's not your place to dictate anyone's sexuality. Labels are supposed to make people feel more secure, not make them feel unaccepted. This is why so many LGBTQIA members feel like they have no place in the community.
Lesbians and gay men are the main perpetrators of this. This is exclusionary, and the same kind of thinking that labels bi women sluts and erases bi men. Stop it and give people room to figure it out
I was originally going to ignore this bc it’s a pretty insane take, but it kept coming back up in my mind and led me to think about labeling in general and how my generation goes about it (and unfortunately for you anon, I stayed just as radical).
There’s two types of labels: static, or inherent, and active, or chosen, labels. Static/inherent labels are things that you are born with, and are obviously observable to everyone that looks at you. Race and sex, most notably. Those do not require you to do anything to make them true, they just are. These are the labels in which rules and stereotypes are pretty much pointless because the color of your skin or your genitals do not determine anything about you other than the fact you have them. It is medical information and nothing more, and does not influence your personality.
However active/chosen labels DO need rules and regulations or they are completely pointless. Even things such as sexual orientation (which you are born with) need you to actively engage with them, even if it is just thinking “I’m gay”, for them to be realized. You are not born, a naked infant, and the doctor looks at you and pronounces you gay, or anarchist punk, or goth, or feminist, etc etc. And since they require actions to fulfill, then having set requirements for a category is vital for us to accurately communicate information to others. And if you do not fit the criteria for a certain label, the only thing that makes any sense is to choose another label that does fit you.
This conflation of the two types of labels has lead to a lot of nightmare messes for the queer community especially, but also even with people claiming they can be conservative and goth and it’s actually more alternative to be conservative and all that mess. Have requirements to be part of a group is literally the foundation for forming a group outside of just the general public, otherwise there is no point in doing so at all.
Also, Anon honestly seems to have more biphobia than I do, which I feel like I come across a lot. As soon as I mention potential bisexuality in someone people immediately start telling me not to slut shame, that I’m erasing bisexual men (somehow?) etc, when never once did I ever say anything bad about bisexual women. I’m close friends with bi women and I love them dearly whether or not they choose to date men because that’s their prerogative. However when I say “bisexual”, you hear “bad”. I do not think it is bad for women to be attracted to men. My complaint is when you claim lesbianism, a female same-sex only orientation, while constantly expressing attraction to men, because that reinforces the “she hasn’t found the right dick yet” narrative that puts lesbians in danger. I was literally just given that line yesterday and then stalked for 45 minutes by a creepy man.
Lesbians are not attracted to men. If you are attracted to men and women you are bisexual/pansexual/whatever word you want to use to express a polysexual orientation. And if you are bisexual, I love you and thank you for your self-reflection and honesty with yourself. Labels exist to give a name to your lived reality, no label is better or worse or cooler than another, and trying to stretch labels to fit things they aren’t is really pointless when the other label that describes you perfectly is literally right there.
Radical feminism, centering women, and worshipping female deities really turned my life around FAST because what do you mean my constant mental health problems are slowly alleviating, I’m making new female friends, I’ve finally left behind the toxic male friends, I’ve applied to and gotten my first management position, I’m gaining weight and muscle, and I’m talking to a lovely beautiful femme all within this year so far. Like I know radical feminism covers very serious issues too and politically life kind of sucks, but life really is beautiful as well when you center women and female-ness among the chaos. I love rad feminism and I love lesbianism.
(This was in response to me saying that it’s odd that Chappell says she’s a lesbian while also thirsting after men even within the past couple months, and saying I believe she’s likely bi and febfem)
But I am so TIRED of the “sexuality is fluid” bs. If your sexuality is fluid you are not monosexual!!! You’re bi/pan/“queer”/whatever else you want to use to refer to your status as a polysexual person, which is COMPLETELY fine. But it’s not homosexual. It’s not lesbian. These types of people are only adding fuel to the, “You haven’t tried the right dick yet” fire. Lesbians are not attracted to men, at all. Not only 30%, or 10% or even 1%. We are not attracted to men and we did not have to fight this fight for decades only for people to repackage it in a “woke” way. I’m so tired of how much the supposed left spews the patriarchy wrapped up in a pretty bow and claims it’s true leftism and I’m the backwards one.
I don’t think it’s too much to ask people to use proper words for themselves. I don’t want Chappell or anyone to conform to labels that don’t fit them, I want them to stop claiming labels that don’t fit and forcing the definition of that label to change, and instead choosing the ones that are literally right there and fit perfectly. Being bisexual is amazing and beautiful and I love my bisexual baddies, but being in denial of your bisexuality and claiming lesbianism just leads to messiness.
Men: why do women think we equate sex with violence? Why do women think we equate penetration with punishment or humiliation?
Men: SUCK MY COCK, GET RAPED, CHOKE ON MY NUTS, I FUCKED YOUR MOTHER
Men: i just don't get why they'd think that... unless maybe it's because they secretly *want* sexual violence... maybe they're upset because they can't stop thinking about my donger
This argument is so frustrating to me, as someone who has also experienced both CSA and SA as a teen and adult.
With every other form of trauma, we know there’s a tendency to continue to try and replay the bad experience to see if it’ll be different this time. We also know that tendency is harmful because while it feels good to give into that temptation, it’s ultimately reinforcing the trauma in your mind and prolonging it’s ability to have a hold on you.
However that principle is suddenly forgotten when it comes to sexual trauma, I guess because of the “don’t kink shame” thing (which is a stupid rule to have because it leaves no room for nuance. I don’t care if your kink is rubbing ice cubes on your skin for temperature play, that has no risk. However some things do have risk and that’s why I criticize them).
Continuing to trigger your sexual trauma over and over again is only feeding the cycle. I don’t want to go into too much detail, but I know this from my own experiences in my teens. It’s a compulsion that needs to be starved off, and it can be very difficult to do that, but it’s what will ultimately help you move on, instead of just being stuck in a cycle of constant triggering to “desensitize” yourself. However I also know when your trauma is severe enough, you don’t really want to move on, so I wonder if they know deep down that they’re only prolonging this limbo, but they’re afraid of what’s outside of it.
I can’t excuse knowingly feeding into the cesspool of abuse that is pornography, however. If you truly feel you need this to process, at least try and find it through erotic writing or other forms that don’t have a risk of the person you’re getting off to actually being abused in real life.
wait so you're a rape victim and you actively support an industry that RAPES women? what kind-of mental disconnect is that? putting rape into the mainstream media sure as hell doesn't help with trauma but rather facilitates more of it. hot take but YOU just made a very uniformed take.
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what’s so ironic to me is how much prostitution enthusiasts stress "listening to sex workers"—but the moment those very "sex workers" they claim to love so much disagree with them, suddenly they’re not worth listening to anymore.
"listen to sex workers" I'm listening! are you?