Sonny-ray-of-goth - Sunflower Grunge

americans better be rebloging the donation and help links for mexico and colombia after all the help they recieved from latin americans w their own issues

Not my dad having called me a slur used for physically disabled people anytime I was injured or in pain during my childhood, long before I was diagnosed with my disability. I didn’t know it was a slur at the time.

Not me assuming that after I actually was diagnosed with a physical disability that he would stop calling me that out off respect or at least ask me if I mind. No one really cares about a child understanding words that are meant to be used as an insult because if they don’t teach them they’re an insult they think they can get away with it. That’s not good.

But I was having a bad pain day and my dad once again called me the G word, which not everyone knows.

He didn’t say it in front of anyone other than me and my mom, and he didn’t say it in an insulting way, however he has a tendency to say rude and cruel things with no intention of them being either (or with the intent but not caring)

I don’t actually have issues with the word itself on reference to me. Gimp(y) and Cripple aren’t words that I am afraid to use to describe me but I don’t need my father to assume I’m okay with using it as an adjective.

I wonder how he’d react to me referring to him as it? Another chronic pain haver who happens to use a cane on occasion.

Hmm

So excited to have a flare up during my EOC exam tomorrow and not being allowed to have any of my diy treatments because the school refuses to accommodate me, so fun!!! /src

But seriously I had a flare up in the middle of my SAT and it caused me to not be able to finish a section due to incoherency and pain. Literally just let me have my salty beverage…..

Favorite LGBTQIA+ moment in video games?

I don’t really play video games...

Soooo

The best I can do is tell you a cute story about among us.

Okay so one day when me and my friends were bored and all still played among us, my friends asked me to join an among us game.

I joined their lobby and they’re username was trans babe.

That was how she chose to come out to me.

It was freaking adorable, dude.

But yeah that’s the only thing I really have for today!

10 children a day lose their limbs in Gaza. All hospitals in Gaza are basically barely functioning and the amputations are done in unsanitary conditions and without anesthesia

Help Me Get New Mobility Aids!!!

Happy Disability Pride Month! I initially wasnt going to make a post to try to get new mobility aids/tools, but I really need them, so what the hell.

I am a multiply disabled Black lesbian and I have been without proper supportive mobility since the start of the pandemic. I had many of my things broken or thrown away during this time period, and I thought I could go without but its been so long and I really cant anymore.

I need smart/ergonomic forearm crutches because regular forearm crutches wreck my fragile hypermobile wrists, I need braces for both legs and ankles, a shower bench and detachable showerhead. All of this combined is a bit over $550.

I REALLY need this, esp the crutches! My mobility and bodily autonomy would be GREATLY increased If I was able to get these items. I

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TLDR?: Disabled Black Lesbian needs new mobility aids for increased mobility and autonomy.

Ok so at this point I've had two people roll up to me in manual wheelchairs, well, one of them was somebody pushing somebody who was nonverbal at the time, but it still counts. They asked me why I had zip ties around my tires.

It's winter where I'm living and we have really bad snow. And the snow plow people are really bad at their jobs probably because there aren't snow plow people who clean sidewalks. As a solution I got to thinking about how I could increase the traction on my wheels. And the most redneck thing I could think of was taking a bunch of zip ties and tying them around my wheels. They last surprisingly long, and work surprisingly well. It's basically the same premise as chains for your tires during the winter.

I chose to space them out pretty evenly so there's about one for every spoke. You could probably do more or less depending on how many you want and how much traction you get but I wouldn't go more than three per spoke. I realize that it's a bit later in the winter, and I probably should have made a post about this sooner, but I came up with it about a week ago. So please share this, even if you're not disabled, because there are tons of people I know who are stuck in their houses because they can't get around in the snow. A pack of zip ties costs about $5, which compared to $200 knobby snow tires is a big save, and if you want to invest you could get colored zip ties.

Am i gaslighting myself?

Early this year i was told by a doctor that i have developed a shellfish allergy, after having a few bad reactions randomly, and have since stopped eating all forms of shellfish. I used to be able to eat shellfish perfectly fine and the development of the allergy was really out of nowhere.

I wouldn’t eat any shellfish but i would feel really bad because my family now has to stop making shellfish dishes which we used to have a lot and is even more inconvenient given my other food allergies.

I would tell myself that it’s probably nothing and that i was just being over dramatic and it was probably just paranoia.

But then a couple days ago i had a really bad reaction from a shellfish cross contamination, which should prove that it’s completely real and that I’m not overreacting right? But it’s still... not that easy.

I still feel bad about having these dietary restrictions that affect the people around me and wish i could just suck it up.

Important seasonal reminder, if you're on meds for chronic or mental illnesses, they can cause you problems with the heat! Thanks to spoonfulofhan on Twitter for these! She also has tips for dealing with the heat:

Okay! This I can do! What’s your favorite LGBTQ book?

Well I just finished reading a book called “Meet Cute Diary” which is about a trans guy who writes a blog called the meet cute diary and it’s a bunch of meet cites involving trans people. The catch is though, that he made them all up and someone calls him out in it! The plot is him trying to find a way to prove that he isn’t a fraud and save his blog and maybe find love along the way!

I’m always looking for good queer books and just picked up another one recently although I haven’t started it yet because I’m saving it to read on the road.