Dating With Purpose?

I find my courage in each small step forward; my motivation grows with every challenge I embrace, turning hurdles into stepping stones.

“Do more things that make you forget to check your phone.”

— Unknown

Old dogs CAN learn new tricks!

It's fun. When we're young we get shoved in many directions by those who are supposed to be "teaching" us. We don't realize just how broken most of those folks are and to be fair, they usually don't have a clue either. As we grow and experience life, we get shoved around by reality and forced to play by certain rules because well, things don't slow down long enough in many cases to realize there are other options. Here's where I giggle and say again... broken humans creating broken humans. But, if we're lucky... there comes a point where we can take a breath, look around, see just how twisty things, situations, and people really are.... and begin to rethink how we want to navigate our way through the chaos. That's where I'm at. It's messy. I make mistakes. I wander around clueless a lot. I flop onto the floor and just wait for things to give me less of a headache. I try new things. I laugh and cross some things off my try, or try again, lists. And sometimes... I squeal like a hyper six year old and giggle bounce trying to show anyone who will pay attention my most recent accomplishment... even if sometimes it seems MUCH bigger to me than it would to ANYONE else. hahaha The important part here is that I'm learning a LOT about who I am, who I was sort of forced to pretend to be, and how the actual me can function more smoothly in the world of twisty humans. I'm beginning to understand glitches, adjust my priorities, find new ways of seeking the options I want, and having plenty of fun in the process. I really wish I could have done this when my brain and body were a bit more... cooperative but hey... take it when ya get it right? heh Anyway... I've shared. I hope you're having some fun in the little glimmery moments of life. Laters.

While I do understand the message they are trying to express, I could not help but giggle as my toddler brain went.... since when did being in a wheelchair become a gender??

And yes, I am aware of how bothered some humans are by signs like this but, because of that very mentality, I appreciate that more places are offering... safe spaces... to perform bodily functions. Bad human behavior comes in all types of packages. Making someone feel unsafe, or unwelcome simply because of their personal (not dangerous to anyone else) lifestyle decisions is not a very nice thing so yes... I fully support spaces like this and the businesses that have them.

Ants!

I can look at pictures online of bugs, insects, creepy crawlies, and the like.. and be completely mesmerized by the beauty and capabilities. I will also say though that, when I do something in my home and find something crawling ... my first and only panic attack thought line is DIE DIE DIE! Ants are on the top of that list for me. They come in, they go everywhere, and it never feels like they are gone for good. I understand all of the ... they serve a purpose, it's more there territory than ours, blah blah blah... but when they enter my house and are spotted.... I simply can not help the desire to burn the house down and run. They MUST DIE. hahahahha I know I am not alone. LOL

That's neat. Hovering over the name makes it do the metallic rainbowy thing which reminds me of those metallic stickers that were so popular in my younger years. Does it do that on the phone app or is it just for the website? hahaha hmmm Now I'm wondering if they still sell stickers like that? pssh I'm sure they do. Google time! :-)

Okay so, as I pay more attention I realize that humans seem to like seeing their food online. While I'm not entirely sure how many enjoy viewing the food of others I figured I would go ahead and play along so... here ya go. The current meal includes eggs, potato, tomato, carrot, celery, and a sausage, with a light dusting of a salt/pepper/garlic seasoning blend, cooked with a little bit of palm oil in a frying pan. Ooooh. Aaaaah. Yes, it was very much tasty. Yes, this is a common cooking style for me. And no, I will not be sad if I don't get paycheck level likes on my food photo. Okay, I'm done. Enjoy.

Real human love. I have seen a lot of folks struggle due to the possibilities in AI art. I understand the work that goes into it but, I also understand the damage it does in other areas of human life. Me personally, I will always aim to support non AI art. Not hatin, just tryin to keep the non computer options alive and well.

Things...

It's a $15 coffee pot... why go through so much hassle to extend the life of it? Because it's about appreciating what you have. Appreciate that you have a working coffee pot. Put forth the effort to care for it and extend it's life because it is of value and it serves you well.

This was the conversation that led to me finally understanding that far too many people don't value what they have. Stuff is just... things to buy, sell, use, and replace... and sadly, that includes people. Far too many value the money to buy the stuff and the power money gives them over people, but they can't... or don't want to... see the value in the things themselves. It's sad. It explains a lot but, it's ... sad. Maybe I'm a big weirdo but I think things, people included, are more than just items to be bought, sold, used, and replaced.

... Okay... rant over. Have a wonderful day.

The many faces of loss

I always get so grumbly with humans that think loss is a simple thing. A death, job change, relationship end, and many other forms of loss can have lasting, and often hidden (even to the one dealing with it) effects. So many people focus on the short term handling of the loss, or the lingering obvious issues and seem to think they know how the person should or shouldn't be acting. It's complete ridiculousness. NOBODY has ANY right to tell ANYONE how they should feel, or how the loss impacts them in their own realities. EVERY SINGLE CREATURE deals with each loss in their own ways. Some of the effects can be dealt with quickly and easily, some make permanent changes and will never be fully understood. NEVER.... EVER... let ANYONE tell you that you are somehow broken, or messed up, for how a loss impacts your own thoughts. Those who are trying to help will usually offer support, reassurance, patience, and space. If the person you think is there to help is pressuring you, making you feel like something is wrong with you, or is irritated by how things are effecting you... they are clearly NOT as helpful as they want to believe they are. If someone doesn't understand and is a bit inconvenienced because of your handling of a loss, that... is completely understandable... BUT... if they allow that to become an attitude towards you... THEY are the ones with a problem... NOT YOU! This human experience does not come with complete and foolproof instructions. We each have to figure things out in our own ways, no matter how many others try to tell us they have all the answers. So, if you're out there, and you're dealing with something, and you're feeling a bit beaten.... just remember.... you got this. There are those of us out there that understand it's complicated, it takes time, and USUALLY it's a lot more messy than anyone cares to admit. Just keep picking at it. You'll get where you need to be with it, if you really want to. Believe. ... Much love.