Fun Fact When Regulus Died Sirius Barely Moved, Barely Ate, Barely Looked At Anyone Or Anything For Days

I learned recently, while researching gaslighting, that there is a second type called ‘Emotional gaslighting’. This is when your abusers deny the reality of your feelings. 'You’re too sensitive’, 'It wasn’t that bad’, 'You’re just faking it for attention’, 'Stop acting like you’re hurt’ 'Come on, it didn’t hurt you’ 'You’re overreacting!’ 'You’re fine, stop exaggerating’, these phrases deny your own feelings to you. They communicate to you that not only the abuser doesn’t believe you’re experiencing pain, they’re demanding you to pretend that you aren’t. They’re asking you to deny your reality and to pretend it’s not real.

This will make you feel like you’re not allowed to feel your own emotions, and you’ll end up questioning if any of your emotion is real or are you faking it? Are you justified in feeling what you do? Are your feelings of pain and terror really just an exaggeration that doesn’t have a basis in reality? Are you making up your own suffering? Is all this pain in your head only?

This, again, will cause you to feel like you’re going insane, and doubt your every reaction to any event, you’ll try to see if thru someone else’s eyes you would be perceived as 'reasonable’ for having a reaction that you do, and it will drive you insane trying to figure out what are the 'correct’ responses while all you feel is shame, anxiety, pain and desperation.

This illusion falls apart when you realize that all 'correct’ responses are only those convenient to your abuser, and that somehow, your every positive and obedient reaction to them is 'correct’, while justified upset and pain at their abuse is 'wrong and forbidden’. So somehow you’ve been reacting to everything right, except the abuse. Somehow, your every thought and feeling needs to be convenient to them or it’s wrong. That’s how you know it’s only a self-serving game they’re playing, and all your emotions were correct all along, as there’s no way for you to 'feel’ wrong. All your pain is still their fault, and not your fault for 'feeling it’, and things are exactly as bad as you feel them. Your feelings are a reflection of reality that is happening to you, if there was no cause of you feeling upset and pained, you would not be feeling it.  

i learned about your dron wip 5 minutes ago and im already hyped it truely is rarepair hell out here and i cant wait to get fed

eeeeeee tysm💖💖 i'm ecstatic it isn't a barren wasteland out here lmao, i'm acc getting responses!!

an update on the fic status, it's ~15k rn and still at the baby stages, i'm gonna start posting after i finish up the current chapter tho!

I'm shyyyy and also I'm way too awkward when talking to people lmaooo

Ohh I'd love to read what you've written but if you prefer to wait to have more written that's 100% fine, just do what you're comfortable with! I confess I eat up the pwp fics lmao but also good long fics are more than welcome, the more the better!

well i'm so glad you still reached out!! i know it can be pretty hard but it encouraged me so much ✨

been in rarepair hell for a while, im surprised ppl are even seeing and are interested in my stuff tbh; i didn't choose the brainworm, it chose me and now won't leave 🙂 but anyways now we have a Warriors' Bond i don't make the rules

will let y'all know the instant i post on ao3 and it'll prolly be weekly updates from there 🫡🫡

How DIDN'T he already know. (He already knew)

when i was sixteen and insane for my shakespeare class final i had to do the “alas poor yorick” monologue at a competition and while i was doing it i had this insane thought of like. i’ve never been and never will be closer to experiencing hamlet’s mental state than i am right now. like of course all that stuff didn’t happen to me but when you’re 16-19 you kind of feel like all that stuff is happening, all the time, constantly

Nobody understands the struggles of being a teenage girl better than Prince Hamlet of Denmark

help lmao

Richard Siken / Anne Sexton

i enjoy the simple things in life like sleeping, daydreaming, ignoring reality, listening to music, being delusional, recklessly spending my cash and being a disappointment to my family

at the risk of sounding like i think ron's only likeable bc he's "special" in some way (untrue): this dude doesnt understand ron's sokka-from-atla and lance-from-vld coded 😨 (team's strategist and heart)

also

Why do people who dont like Ron and Ginny automatically get accused of classicism and anti poor bigotry? I am not saying there are no people who hate Weasleys for being poor, the fandom is huge and all stripes of folks can be found here even the most despicable.

Most people I know who don't like Ron and Gin Gin also have Weasleys they do like such as : Fred, George, Percy, Bill, Arthur and Molly. (Yeah I don't get Molly bashing. She gave Harry his 1st motherly hug, loves her family and defeated Bellatrix. What's not to love? )

I personally don't like Ron, not coz he's poor and red head and all that shite. But coz he's very unremarkable, insecure, not too bright and not charismatic.

He's a good egg but have a distinct sidekick energy and not main character vibe like Harry, Hermione, Tom, Severus, Albus, Sirius, James, does.

And he's not brilliant like Percy, enterprising like the twins or cool like Bill.

He's like the characters Jonah Hill played once upon a time: Good hearted but ordinary, goofy guys.

These characters are good in comic scenes or slice of life dramas but not as the Main Male character or love interest in epic, larger than life romantic fics.

He's good. But he's not love interest material for most straight/bi women and gay/bi men.

I am sure in real life many of us would be happy to date a guy like Ron. But when it comes to reading fics, he's just not that guy you feel interested in.

He's that good, stable, nice guy your parents hope you end up with and they are right too.

But not the type of guy you fantasize about or want to read as MC or love interest.

He's too much of an every man, he reminds many of us too much of ordinary blokes we know to read him as MC or love interest.