Okay So Since This Is Getting Some Notice Again I Want Y'all Wonderful Autistic People To Know That ASAN
Okay so since this is getting some notice again I want y'all wonderful autistic people to know that ASAN is taking applications for their ACI (Autistic Campus Inclusion) program until Feb. 23!! It's for people who are or want to be autistic self-advocates in secondary education (grad school is good too). I learned so many fantastic skills and got a ton of incredible opportunities (I met JUDY HEUMANN and LOBBIED ON FREAKING CAPITAL HILL) And the best part for me was being part of a fully-inclusive (yes I mean that*) autistic space. I'm almost always in some state of dissociation and I was fully present for the whole week. It was absolutely amazing and I want everyone to know about it. If you're even a little bit interested please, please go check it out!!!!
https://autisticadvocacy.org/projects/education/aci/
*I can promise financial, physical, emotional accessibility etc. They encourage people of color and AAC users to apply, just as an example. Most of the people I met were LGBTQ+. I have really weird triggers and when I was suddenly no longer able to handle my dorm situation they made sure I was okay and found me a a new place. I had never had my needs respected like that before and it was life-changing. Please please apply.
Message me or tag me somehow if anyone needs to talk or wants more info on the post or autistic rights and advocacy in general. We're here and we're amazing. Much love and happy stimming 🌱
Punishment for stimming is BAD.
I don’t care if my blog’s not popular, if this post reaches one person it’ll be one more person helped. I just had a college class in abnormal psychology where the professor taught us that punishment is a workable and useful therapy to “treat” autistic symptoms such as head-banging, biting etc. What he neglected to tell the class is that those behaviors are forms of self-stimulation (aka stimming) which is necessary for most people with autism to regulate their sensory systems. Specifically the above destructive behaviors are forms of overload stimming, in which the person will turn to types of self-stimulation that blocks out whatever is causing them distress in their environment. For example, head-banging and biting cause pain and so the body is forced to process that instead of what’s outside, temporarily interfering with their perception of the world to give them a reprieve. To clarify: this behavior isn’t good, it’s dangerous. The solution is to replace the overload stims with healthier ones, let them remove themself from the situation, and give them coping mechanisms and plans so that next time they don’t have to get to overload levels of upset.
The solution is NOT to punish them for overload stimming. They are not exhibiting bad behavior, they are trying desperately to do what their body needs them to do. If you punish them and they stop overload stimming in response, it’s not successful learning: it’s abuse. They are not stopping because they ‘see the error in their ways,’ they are stopping because they are afraid of what you will do to them. All punishment works like that, but it is called for when the person does something wrong, not when they are working to do what their body needs because there is nothing wrong with that.
By the way, this is true for non-destructive types of stimming as well. Preventing any kind of stimming is abuse because it prevents people with autism’s bodies from working as they should. Instead stimming needs to be accommodated and respected or, if it absolutely must be stopped, immediately replaced with an equally effective option.
To recap: punishment is designed to stop bad behavior. Stimming is not bad behavior because it is an action that people with autism need to do to regulate their sensory systems. It is abuse to punish someone without cause. Therefore it is abuse to punish someone for stimming. Instead find non-destructive stims and solutions that solve the problem without the damaging consequences.
*p.s. if someone is overload stimming they’re already really upset. don’t make it worse. it’s common sense and so easy to do if you care about that person.*
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THANK YOU FOR THE BREAKFAST THING IT'S SO IMPORTANT
Also to consider:
Jonathan biting his nails, which is canon, as a more acceptable stim
The lack of "typically autistic" behavior like openly stimming because of being bullied, taking care of his mom and brother, dodging his dad's prior abuse, and possibly undergoing harmful ABA therapy in childhood (needing to pass for as neurotypical as possible in order to stay safe)
His confusion when Nancy tells him he's weirder than the bear trap
autistic jonathan and will byers masterpost:
both jonathan and will are always referred to as being “strange” and “sensitive” and are seen to be shy, except for when will is around his friends
both jonathan and will are bullied for being strange
the mouthbreathers who always pick on will’s friend group
steve and his gang saying things like “i didn’t know he could talk” and “i bet he killed (will)”
they both have an audio stim of ‘should i stay or should i go’, will sings it in the upside down over and over to keep himself calm, jonathan listens to it in the car on the way to lonnie’s house, there’s a scene of them literally swaying/rocking together while listening to it
jonathan also makes mixtapes of songs he finds stimmy and gives them to his brother in the hopes that he’ll like them too
jonathan is always hung up on making breakfast A) because his mom needs to eat and he does to and B) because it’s part of his routine and he feels lost without it, his mother works nights and he’s always had to make breakfast for himself and will
will has a special interest in the x men and all of his friends are totally cool with it and just listen to him infodump all the time
jonathan has a special interest in photography and his camera is a comfort item, he loves the weight of it hanging around his neck
after his camera is broken, he goes nonverbal, you can see nancy try to talk to him and he just opens and shuts his mouth like he’s trying to form words but he can’t
he also didn’t realize that his pictures would come off as stalker-y, i’ve seen some posts that are like ‘he did this because he’s a bad abusive stalker and we shouldn’t trust him’ but i believe that he legitimately didn’t know he was overstepping social bounds, but after it was pointed out he felt bad
jonathan also immediately interprets a couple of people screaming/laughing playfully as someone screaming in pain, there is literally an auditory shift between what he hears and what’s “really” happening
will hides a lot because of his autism, he hides in the little cupboard-y thing and castle byers when he gets overloaded or overwhelmed or goes nonverbal, his fort is filled with blankets and drawings and pillows and his mom and his brother both respect his boundaries regarding it because they know how important it is to him
jonathan’s ‘i don’t like most people’ line hit home for me because its an excuse i use, just because it’s easier to say that than to explain that i always feel distant and like an outsider because i am autistic and i’m not wired the same
jonathan also totally has a meltdown when he beats up steve, he acts only through instinct and he can’t calm down until someone stops him, he’s semi verbal afterwards, his voice is so quiet and it’s like he’s struggling to speak and it only happens after someone touches him
he also is touch averse in other situations, like when hopper playfully grabs him and punches his arm, he looks so jarred. he also does anything he can to get away from lonnie when he hugs him
jonathan has a shutdown after they find “will’s” body,
he listens to the music that calms him down, and cries, and hugs himself, which is a good pressure stim
legit i do that all the time when i get overwhelmed, i just squeeze myself and listen to music and cry until it’s passed
jonathan can read people, but it just takes time to process what he’s seen
he talks about how he can see how people feel in his pictures, but not when he sees them out in the world
but he’s not perfect at it: he makes a huge mistake in his read on nancy and she corrects him for it
also, just how jonathan holds himself, he never makes eye contact, he’s sort of hunched forward and speaks quietly, he keeps his hair in his eyes and he has a naturally blank expression that people sometimes find creepy
that’s really it, sorry this post is so long i’m just !! very excited about these headcanons/analyses of these characters!! feel free to add on if you want to!
I feel like I’ve committed a sin
consider……all of these rainbows may have existed at the same time
Hozier’s first album: forest god comes out of forest to observe humans and uses his music to comment on their society
Hozier’s new EP: forest god has been living among humans for four of their ‘years’ and uses his music to aid in their current movement to heal their society
What inspired the lyrics for your beautiful song Changeling?
Changeling was inspired by my own experience as an autistic person, though in a more fantastical and exaggerated way. Changeling myths began as a result of people not understanding their disabled and neurodivergent children, mistaking differences in behavior as signs of possession or a human child being replaced by a fairy child. It’s morbid, but I’ve always been interested in Changelings since I heard about them as a child. I have a lot of experiences of feeling like an outsider growing up, being very different than my family and the other people I knew. These experiences finally made sense to me only as an adult after researching ASD and realizing where I fit on the spectrum, so the song reflects that experience.
I’m really happy to see in the tags of the song how many autistic people related to it, even without me saying that’s what it was about. :) I’m also happy that allistic people could listen and relate to it as well! Because everyone’s felt like an outsider at some point, and I wrote it for all of us. But yeah, that’s what it was about.
Take 1 minute out of your day to examine this horror of a DVD I found. It starts with the cat with shaved feet, mouth and tail and gets weirder the longer you look at it.
I CAN’T STOP LAUGHING OMG
hoi-ate
Yes
Concept: an apocalyptic or post apocalyptic tv show centred on a group of disabled protagonists
Must include:
-enough details about how they survive that no one can call it “unrealistic”
-mental and physical disabilities
-a character who isn’t necessarily contributing to the survival of the group, but is not abandoned or looked down upon
-at least one character whose disability is actually less of a problem for them now that the world is ending/ended (example: autistic character who used to be constantly overstimulated but no longer is)
Optional features:
-abled person says “the only disability in life is a bad attitude” and gets told where to stuff it
-creatively weaponized mobility aids/assistive devices
-character who abled people think isn’t worth helping because of their disability, but actually has at least one skill essential to the survival of the group
-every time an abled person says something ignorant, all present disabled people look into the camera like they’re on the office
Ok so this post is extremely long and I put it all together for my blogs Feeling sad page but as I don’t have a huge amount of followers I realize so many people are not seeing this information so I’m posting it here too!
alternatives without harming yourself:
holding/squeezing ice.
splashing your face with water.
getting a rubber band and snapping it against your skin (this could hurt, though it’s better than other ways that people usually choose to self-harm).
take a hot shower or bath.
eat something sour. it will take your mind of the urge. (lemon, sour lollies)
massage where you want to self-harm.
get a red pen or red paint and draw/paint over where you usually self-harm.
remind yourself as to why you shouldn’t do it. (scars, harms organs, leave memories etc…)
describe what you are feeling. (is the urge/pain in your chest, fists, legs, arms, head).
killing yourself will not help. it is not a solution.
you have your whole life ahead of you. you have so many more years that you can accomplish things in. for example;
having a family.
getting married.
to watch the sun rise.
to watch the sun set.
to save someone else’s life.
finish school.
get your dream job.
to laugh.
to smile.
to go camping.
travel to new places.
to wake up every morning to the person you love.
friends.
family.
to keep that promise you made.
to accomplish a goal.
to meet your idol.
to listen to new music.
theme parks.
video games.
chocolate.
to be able to look back and say “i made it”.
what you’re going through is temporary.
in case you need to hear this:
you are loved.
you are wanted.
you are needed.
you are beautiful.
you are handsome.
you are important.
you are not alone.
you are okay.
you are strong.
you are worth it.
you are smart.
you are not a failure.
you are useful.
you are going to be okay.
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ERIK KILLMONGER DESERVED BETTER
WHICH IS THE POINT. WHICH MAKES IT HURT EVEN MORE.
GODDAMNIT
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