Donna Tartt: Literally Writes An Entire 600 Page Book About How It Can Be Dangerous To Do Things Just

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- really want a queer platonic relationship - have a QPR - really want an asexual relationship - have an asexual relationship - are aro-spec - are ace-spec - are aroace-spec - have a pet - want a pet - are openly queer - are openly LGBT+ - are a Supernatural-fan - are a geek - are a Sherlock-fan or just love Lilo & Stitch

Something I recently realized that helped me understand my aro-spec identity is that my "crushes" that I can remember weren't actually fueled by romantic attraction for the person. They were actually fueled by attraction towards the idea of dating/liking them, but not actually them as a person. I wanted to find my soulmate and as soon as I found someone that I thought fit that ideal, I would start daydreaming about being with them, but I wasn't really attracted to them as a person, just my idealized version of them and the relationship. As a result, I couldn't really name any traits about those people that I liked, aside from surface level ones like, "funny," "nice," and "hardworking." And while I was aesthetically attracted to them, I never really fantasized about kissing them or being super romantic with them (aside from maybe hand-holding or hugging), and if I ever tried, it made me uncomfortable and felt like I was violating them. Did anyone else have a similar experience or is it just me?

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Trans ftm are valid

Trans mtf are valid

Enby peeps are valid

Intersex peeps are valid

Feminine enbys are valid

Masculine enbys are valid

Androgynous enbys are valid

Feminine trans men are valid

Feminine trans women are valid

Masculine trans men are valid

Masculine trans women are valid

Lesbians are valid

Gay people are valid

Bisexuals are valid

Trans people are valid

Queer people are valid

Asexual people are valid

Aromantic people are valid

Aroace people are valid

Pansexuals are valid

Omni peeps are valid

Genderfluid peeps are valid

Agender peeps are valid

Genderqueer peeps are valid

Demisexuals are valid

Demi boys are valid

Demigirl are valid

Aceflux are valid

Aroflux are valid

Acchileans are valid

Neptunic peeps are valid

Bigender peeps are valid

Designer peeps are valid

Enbian peeps are valid

Fluid flux peeps are valid

Hypersexual peeps are valid

Peeps with autism are valid

Peeps with ADD/ADHD are valid

Neurodivergent peeps in general are valid

LGBT folks are valid

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Maps are not valid

Transracial people are not valid

Super straights are not valid

MIGHT ADD MORE!

Please correct me on any wrong information or any flags you’d like to see in there

Or if I should take down the not valid stuff

PLS GIVE ME FEEDBACK

Was I the only aro-spec person who had the experience of thinking that I had crushes growing up, but looking back, they might not have been crushes because 1. I could never or only rarely name any traits that I liked about them (and those rare times that I could were traits that I simply admired), 2. I felt immense relief when they rejected me, or 3. I just wanted to have a crush, so I chose a person and consciously decided to develop feelings for them, not knowing that it doesn't work like that?

I want a relationship that is completely undefinable by any existing labels or words. Like, we're so close and we hug and kiss each other's foreheads and cuddle and travel and explore together, and we get along so well and have so much in common. But at the same time, our relationship isn't fully romantic or fully platonic; it's a completely separate, open-to-interpretation thing that we tweaked as needed, and we have our own boundaries and things we are and aren't comfortable with, and we respect each other in every way, shape, and form.

I WANT A QPR SOOOOOO BADDDDD!!

I want someone that I can call my partner, but not necessarily in a romantic way. I want someone to hug and be close to. I want someone who I can listen to and who can listen to me. I want someone who shares my interests. I want someone that will agree to discuss and respect our boundaries with one another. I want someone who I can just be with, like we can just exist together. I want someone who will go book shopping with me and just listen to me gush about different books. I want someone who will walk down the halls with, and maybe we'll hold hands and maybe we won't. I want someone who will always be ready to comfort me and who I can comfort whenever they need it. I want someone who will help me calm down and think through things carefully. I want someone who I can explore and go on adventures with.

Basically, I just really want a queerplatonic partner/relationship.

Am I the only one who has a few specific friends who I'm really close with and love to be around, and, if they wanted to, I'd be completely down for making our relationship into something different (romantic, queerplatonic, etc.), but at the same time, I don't activity have a crush on them or want to push for a different relationship bc what if they don't feel the same way or don't know what queerplatonic relationships are.

promare stuff part 1

Today I discovered that a couple of TSH characters were based on actual people Donna Tartt knew at Bennington College- amongst them were students Todd O'Neal and Matt Jacobsen, who were the inspiration for Henry and Bunny respectively.

AND JUST—

There's even their own comments about it and it's so funny wait:

Here's the source

oooooooooh someone’s got a crush