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Girl with a Candle (Detail) - Léon-François Comerre

Again, such a helpful post!♡

What Is Your Ego Self & How To Know If You Are Operating From It

The ego is a psychological concept that refers to the part of our identity that is associated with our sense of self, self-esteem, and self-importance. Our ego is the part of us that identifies with our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, and it helps us navigate the world around us by providing a sense of coherence and stability.

Operating from the ego self can mean different things for different people, but generally, it involves being identified with our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, and allowing them to influence our behavior and decisions. When we are operating from the ego self, we may be more focused on our own needs and desires, and less attuned to the needs and feelings of others.

Some signs that you may be operating from your ego self:

You are highly reactive to criticism or rejection. When your sense of self-worth is tied up in your accomplishments or external validation, you may feel threatened or defensive when others criticize or reject you.

You are driven by a need for control. When you are operating from your ego self, you may feel the need to be in control of every aspect of your life, and may struggle to let go of control or delegate tasks to others.

You are easily triggered by situations that threaten your sense of self-importance. For example, you may become defensive or angry when someone questions your authority or expertise.

You are highly self-critical. When you are operating from your ego self, you may be highly self-critical and may judge yourself harshly for perceived shortcomings or mistakes.

You are focused on achievement and success. When you are operating from your ego self, you may be highly focused on achieving success and may derive a sense of self-worth from external accomplishments or accolades.

Operating from the ego self can have both positive and negative effects on our lives. On the one hand, our ego helps us navigate the world and can give us a sense of stability and coherence. However, when our sense of self-worth and identity is overly tied up in our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, it can limit our ability to connect with others and experience true happiness and fulfillment.

Some reasons why it may be helpful to work towards operating from a less ego-driven perspective:

Ego-driven behavior can lead to conflict and tension in relationships. When we are overly identified with our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, we may be less able to see other people's perspectives or empathize with their feelings. This can lead to conflicts and misunderstandings in our relationships.

Ego-driven behavior can lead to stress and burnout. When we are focused on achievement and success, we may push ourselves too hard or neglect our own needs and well-being. This can lead to stress, burnout, and other negative health outcomes.

Ego-driven behavior can limit our growth and potential. When we are overly attached to our own beliefs and ways of doing things, we may be less open to new ideas and experiences. This can limit our growth and potential in both our personal and professional lives.

Ego-driven behavior can prevent us from experiencing true happiness and fulfillment. When our sense of self-worth is tied up in external accomplishments or validation from others, we may be less able to experience true happiness and fulfillment. This is because our happiness is always contingent on external circumstances and validation, rather than coming from within.

It's important to note that everyone has an ego, and there's nothing inherently wrong with operating from the ego self. However, when our sense of self-worth and identity is overly tied up in our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, it can limit our ability to connect with others and experience true happiness and fulfillment. By becoming more aware of the signs of ego-driven behavior, we can work to cultivate a more balanced sense of self that allows us to connect more deeply with others and experience greater happiness and well-being.

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My goals: until I actually step foot into school and feel the will to try leave my body

2024 goals & resolutions 🎀

with 2024 right around the corner I figured it would be a good idea to list out some of my 2024 goals in the different areas of my life. I will have financial goals, health goals, fitness goals, academic goals, and relationship goals.

💕 Financial Goals

build my savings account to a minimum of 1000$ by the end of the year

save enough (~800$) to move into an apartment with my boyfriend

pay off my two credit cards, then use them sparingly

begin investing my money

use a monthly budget spreadsheet (loosely)

💕 Health Goals

Follow a semi anti inflammatory diet using the 80/20 principle

get closer to my goal weight range (healthy weight for my height)

only eat out on occasions, otherwise cook at home only

incorporate more whole foods into my diet

stay hydrated on a consistent level

💕 Fitness Goals

walk 7k-10k steps daily

keep a consistent weight lifting/cardio routine

begin attending pilates/workout classes

don't skip any of my yoga classes at my university

work on improving health and reaching my dream physique

💕 Academic Goals

raise my GPA closer to a 4.0

pass spring/fall classes with all B's/A's

keep a consistent study routine

turn in all assignments conplete and on time

increase class attendance as I am paying for my education and should utilize class time

💕 Relationship Goals

join one to two on campus clubs

make a friend or two within my major

take myself on solo dates

weekly dates with my boyfriend

keep in contact with all friends I make

💕 Random Goals

Read at least 3 books in their entirety throughout the year

Move into a new apartment/rented house

Continue regular posts on my tumblr

Get to N5/N4 level of Japanese proficiency

Get to conversational fluency in Spanish

Those are my goals for the next year! Given that there are 365 days in a year, I should be able to accomplish at least 85% of these!

til next time lovelies 🩷

here’s the intro page to my beauty binder <3

@strwbry-luv definitely the most relatable post on tumblr today

made by me🎀