As A Kid That Came From A 'She Loves Me, She Loves Me So Much It Hurts. I Just Wish She Was A Better

As a kid that came from a 'She loves me, she loves me so much it hurts. I just wish she was a better Mother so loving her back didn't feel so hard' relationship with my own mom I latched on to Kurt and Rouge so, so hard as a kid. I felt their pain, their conflict, but every time I saw Raven... I couldn't help but love her, couldn't help seeing my mom in her. It doesn't help that Mystique is actually her favorite right behind Storm. It's my own inside 'joke', my mom will always love me just like Raven will always love Kurt and Anna but she was never the mother they needed her to be, especially when they needed her the most. Maybe I won't always feel like her little Nightcrawler, but for now, I don't mind it so much, I have my own Rouge after all (even comes with their own Gambit) and he's the best big brother in the world.

I think the ideas that

“Raven is a bad parent”

And

“Raven loves their children”

Can and should co exist. I will never sit here and say Mystique is a good parent, but I think acting like they don’t love their children is just being willfully ignorant of their characterization since the 80s.

I see a lot of people try to claim Raven doesn’t care about their kids. I actually think they care a LOT, it just, doesn’t deter their actions. And they’re not a good parent, don’t get me wrong, but that doesn’t mean they don’t love Kurt and Rogue and I think trying to claim they don’t actually does away with a lot of Raven’s character nuance.

A lot of the tragedy and depth of their relationships come from the fact that Raven DOES love their children, but it’s not enough. And Kurt and Anna Marie know that, and that’s part of the tragedy of it too.

I’m not a Mystique defender, but I am a Raven Darkhölme characterization realist. A lot of people flatten their character to add more sympathy to Kurt’s story especially, which feels kinda iffy to me. But that’s for another post.

From a storytelling perspective, it adds so much more depth and tragedy to all characters involved to not make the relationship so shallow and one sided as “Oh Mystique doesn’t love them”, and even to juxtapose Raven’s relationship to them with Irene’s is a whole other thing I may talk about one day. But like, you do the story injustice to flatten it down to just “Oh Mystique sucks”

Tl;dr - Raven Darkhölme is a shitty parent but they do love their kids. And that’s the whole tragedy of the thing

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okay seriously reblog if you're older than 12

everyone in the notes is either “turning 45 in june!!!” or “does in three years count?? 😫😫😫”

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For real its funny how spot on the reblogg is though but im neither of those so yay I beat the system

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kaicat-love

3 years ago

By the fucking smallest of aatoms, I have made it

Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Look buddy, i’m just trying to make it to Friday.

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kaicat-love

2 years ago

Brennan Lee Mulligan every time he plays a PC/NPC on d20. Bro has had to actually talk about how he just thought he was playing as human of a character as possible and then pulls out fucking Evan Kelmp.

kaicat-love - A Wild Anxious Gay Has Appeared

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kaicat-love

3 years ago

This is why Nanami is best character because he does shit like this. He just wants to make sure Yuji is okay and doesn't lose all of his childhood trying to protect everyone 😭. I'm sorry Nanami is my favorite I love him lots.

"being a child is not a sin" thank you nanami i will now proceed to weep into my pillow and contemplate my entire life that has occurred so far

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kaicat-love

2 years ago

The only thing that's running through my head is if Ryuji moves that package Akiren is gonna bap the fuck out of poor Yusuke on accident 😭

more fursona5...

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kaicat-love

1 year ago

So I just got 5 unskippable ads on YouTube and have but one question.

WHAT THE FUCK YOUTUBE!!!

Two unskippable ads? That's on par.

BUT FIVE FUCKING ADS!!! ALL UNSKIPPABLE!!! AND ONLY TWO WERE SHORT!!!

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Youtube wtf??

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kaicat-love

4 years ago

Oh yeah my bro works for door dash and takes me with him sometimes and one time we got one in this super big culdesac. It was so quiet and not a single person was outside even though it was mid afternoon and the house we delivered to was dark everywhere and there was amazon boxes piled up outside and the room that was at the front of the house with the big windows you can see in was a playroom for a kid filled with toys of all sizes but it didn't look like any of it had ever been touched long story short it took us five minutes to find our way out of that hell hole and by the time we did we felt like we where going crazy

when i was a kid, the thought of heaven would scare me so bad that i would get violently ill because i imagined it would just be a neverending series of cookiecutter suburban neighborhoods with a sky that was always sunny. like this

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tma that's hell is damn right that shit is scary like no thank you culdesacs are creepy felt like i was in a damn episode of

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kaicat-love

4 years ago

My heart says "Yes!" but my allergies say "Fuck You!"

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kaicat-love

6 years ago

Short hair but I usually like it up. I don't like horror or rom-com's, I prefer action adventures or fantasy(but I guess if I had to choose, horror)! I don't like most tea or coffees cause they're to bitter, but I guess coffee cause I love the smell. MOON! Why not both, hit up a coffee shop for snacks and have a picnic, or, or, when its cold you can take a walk through a park and then go the the coffee shop! I value all kinds of love, but above all I value familial love the most so I suppose I'd have to go with platonic.

are you a hair up or hair down kinda person? horror movie or a rom-com? do you like coffee or tea? are you moon or sun? park or coffee shop? romantic love or platonic love?

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i dont know no do i care? why did i do this this is way to long once again and again

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