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“Wife Sharing Trying To Convince Your Wife To Have An MFM? Show Her This Article The Hotwife Phenomenon - The New Threesome By: Dr. Sherry Lee, Ph. D. From: Psychology Today (Dr. Lee has lectured and published in the area of analytical psychology, and she developed one of the first electronic systems for the quantitative analysis human behavior. She started her counseling work by leading gestalt therapy groups. Apart from this, her several decades of professional experience has been largely limited to urban, affluent, female subjects.) What Has Spurred the whole Hotwife Phenomenon? Although motivations for the Hotwife phenomenon actually cover a wide spectrum, here we’ll cover a few of the most common. First let’s get this out of the way. The Menage a’ Trois is out, it’s yesterday’s news, and most women are glad to see it go. Why? Because for at least the last hundred years or so we women have had to indulge this male fantasy (usually with our best girlfriends as the second woman) and frankly guys, we’ve had enough. No, we don’t really like to perform oral sex on our best friends just because you think it’s hot, sorry. We’re not lesbians and even though it looks like we like it in every porno you’ve ever seen, the last thing that turns us on is watching you, our boyfriends/husbands screw another woman right in front of us. We just aren’t wired to like that. It’s biologically programed into us not to like seeing our mates mating with other females. On the other hand, we women know that a lot of you men out there DO like the idea of watching us, your girlfriends and wives, get it on with another male while you either watch or better still, join in. Surprised? You shouldn’t be. Polls show that more and more women, especially those in their late thirties and older, who are passed or passing their child bearing years, say that the threesome they do find extremely exciting is the kind of threesome so called “Hot Wives” are having and that’s the MFM or Male-Female-Male threesome. These women are hitting their sexual prime during their late thirties and early forties and many of them like getting attention from younger males. These women don’t want to cheat on the men they love, they want to have their boyfriends and husbands to let them be the sexual creatures at the peak of their sexual powers that the media has falsely convinced men happens when women are in their twenties. It’s just not true. While many males my be suffering from a drop in their testosterone levels in their forties and feel like their sexual peak is a distant memory, the women in their lives are just getting warmed up, maybe even hot! What is a Cuckold? A husband who is a cuckold is aware of his spouse’s activity, most likely actively encouraging it and derives sexual pleasure from it. Biologist Robin Baker speculates in his book “Sperm Wars” that the excitement and stimulation of the cuckolding fetish emerges from the biology of sexuality and the effects of sexual arousal on the brain. Baker believes that when a man thinks that his female mate may have been sexual with another man, the man is prompted by biological urges to copulate with the female in an effort to “compete” with the other man’s sperm. While this is just a theory it may help explain the desire by many men to have their wives sleep with other men. He may value the relationship and not want her to jeopardize things because of the deceit and secrecy that normally accompany affairs. In short, he wants to know about and approve any extramarital sex, and even have some control over it. The cuckold husband wants his wife’s sexual encounters with men to be for sex only, with no marriage-threatening emotional entanglements. The mass media often cast beautiful and desirable women as both sexy and prone to sexual liaisons. Whereas this type of woman used to be considered a “fallen woman” or even a “whore,” in some minds she now seems to represent an enticing new standard. Some women used to brag about how they could avoid marital sex, and despite the views of some radical feminists, such women are now suspected as being man-haters, latent lesbians, or simply having personal problems. Now, many women find a certain excitement in being viewed as sexually liberated. For some, especially some older women, there may be a certain ego gratification in still being viewed as being sexually desirable — even discretely promiscuous. While holding to the security of her primary relationship, she may revel in experiencing sexual freedom. At the same time, some cuckold husbands want their wives to appear ladylike on the surface (in public.). But, among the majority of these men, they want they wives to be known as “hot”, “sexy”, and “not hung up about sex,” or even “great lays.” Although this type of wife was once considered a threat to husbands — and it still is to most — the more psychologically secure males believe that a healthy and well-adjusted (and desirable) woman enjoys sex, and has the right to be just as open about it as men. Also, the husbands involved often pride themselves in being secure enough to handle a hotwife. He may even brag to another man about how his wife loves sex and can’t get enough (which, not coincidentally, may be very much in contrast to the attitude of that man’s wife). Implicit in the comment is that the husband has no problem with this, and that, in fact, he thinks his wife is very “hot.” In most cases sex within a Hotwife marriage is just that. Hot. Women in the Hotwife lifestyle report having higher than average self esteem, they report far fewer incidences of infidelity on the part of their husbands, an above average libido, and overall feelings of being attractive, especially to younger males. Many women realize that other women regularly enjoy “good sex,” and although many wives have grown ambivalent about sex within their marriages and are reluctant to try new things, these barriers frequently fall with the expectations of new sexual partners. With new men there appears to be unspoken desire to “not disappoint” and “to be good in bed.” Even though she may have started to have doubts about her sexual desirability, as a hotwife she will find that men are again interested in her. For some women this can constitute a kind of new “sexual awakening.” This transformation can be quite disturbing for a husband who isn’t prepared to handle it. But for those men who have always thought that their wives were not only devoted to them but should be admired, even lusted after by other men, it is a dream come true. Contrary to the most commonly held belief that all cuckold husbands are by default the submissive type with a small penis inferiority complex, most of these men are actually extremely confident in their masculinity and their “manhood”. They also report having no desire to have sex with other women. Their hotwife is almost always the sole focus of all their sexual fantasy and activity. In my experience, this may be the only class of men who can actually be believed when reporting this. In some circles a woman may wear a bold ankle bracelet on her right ankle to tell men “in the know” that she’s a hotwife. (At the same time, most women who wear ankle bracelets do so without realizing the possible significance.) Once seen as a hotwife, she may flirt with select men, making it clear that she’s available for sex. Women As Sex Objects? Many women feel that being a hotwife turns a woman into a sex object. This seems to be primarily based on the premise that enjoying sex is a masculine prerogative. However, more and more women are finding that this is not so. Most women have lived their lives trying to act “like proper women” and shunning men “who have one thing on their minds.” Now, according to one woman, “I let guys know I like sex.” Thus, she may soon get beyond, “what other people will think” and concentrate on the pleasures of the sexual experience — in particular, experiencing regular orgasms. This is often bolstered by the excitement that surrounds the culturally taboo aspects of a married women having sex with other men. Usually it’s the Husband’s Idea All of this notwithstanding, the cuckold husband/hotwife phenomena is typically the idea of the husband who not only knows about the high number of female affairs, but is even sexually excited by visualizing another man having sex with his wife. According to one husband, “I had to really change my view about how a wife is supposed to be, especially with guys finding out she’s ‘available’ even though she’s married to me. But now I really get off on having a woman that guys think is hot and who they want to have sex with. Fact is, instead of being embarrassed or defensive, I brag about how she loves sex, and then I casually mention that this sure makes her a lot different than most wives. In a very good way.” According to another husband, “…as far back as I can remember in our marriage, I’ve always been turned on and excited by the idea of encouraging her to let guys give her all the sexual attention she can handle. …She and I feel closer and more attracted to each other because of all the attention she gets from men. Especially the younger guys. They all think she is hot and they’re right! My wife feels that as long as we are together when she’s with another guy, everything is OK. It’s a huge turn on for both of us.” From her husband’s perspective, he has long ago ridded himself of the “fallen woman baggage” that pervades most of our culture, the fact that his wife is pursued by men, makes herself available to men, and sometimes has sex with other men, introduces a bit of competition for her. This can strengthen the husband’s resolve to “treat her right” although most husbands with hot wives already have a sort of “wife worship” fetish you might call it. They tend to buy their wives pretty clothes, take them out, and tell them how attractive they think they are and make them feel that they are attractive to other men. He may fantasize about a powerful (safe) man sexually awakening and dominating her, and forcing her to break free of sexual inhibitions. Some husbands know how exciting a new sexual partner and experience can be, and want to offer some other men this experience with their wives. A husband may also fantasize about having a wife that is, to a degree, driven by both a physical and a psychological need for sex. Visualizing or seeing first-hand other men meeting this need in her —but only with his permission— may excite him. The Woman’s Perspective Women have a different perspective on being a hotwife, of course. According to one woman, “I’ve got a sense of freedom in enjoying the company of men and not being paranoid about a jealous husband, or even being worried about what people will think. If I want to have sex with a guy I find attractive, all I have to do is tell my husband and I have the freedom to do it. For me, having my husband there is a huge part of the turn on. Knowing it excites him makes it more exciting for me. Of course I’m excited that a younger, good looking guy wants me and thinks I’m hot, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t. But just sleeping with another guy without my husband feels more like cheating than a turn on. Some women go on dates without their husbands and a lot of husbands are OK with that. For me, I want my husband with me. I want him to see me being taken by another man. It’s really hot, for both of us.” At the same time, the hotwife does not want jealousy or resentment to ruin her marriage or threaten the unusual freedom she enjoys, a freedom she knows that very few husbands would be willing to grant. Therefore, she needs to be careful to be totally open and honest to her husband about her lovers. This means that there will be no secret conversations or secret meetings with men. It may also mean that the husband may want to approve of the men she has sex with. The cuckold husband may want his wife to announce her sexuality by wearing revealing clothes. For example, he may accompany her to a night spot in a distant city and have her dress in ultra-revealing clothes or tell her to go out without wearing any panties. This can serve to get them both used to the resulting male attention. Rather than being jealous, having a wife that is seen by other men as sexually “hot” may provide him with an ego boost. (Dare we suggest that for some men hot wives are replacing hot cars as a source of pride.) Thus, while the male and female motivations might be quite different in the cuckold husband-hotwife phenomena, the ultimate goal can be the same. The husband will have to deal with meeting men who have had or want to have sex with his wife. To compensate for any suspected loss of his virility, the husband may remind others of his own previous sexual escapades. At the same time to prove his lack of jealousy, he may freely admit to men that his wife regularly enjoys sex with different men, and he may even subtly offer her to select men. According to one man, “I like to set things in motion like that just to see what happens.” The Quintessential Issue What may seem desirable for the husband or wife while under the influence of testosterone, libido or fantasy, may later seem like a huge mistake. The result may be regret and marital estrangement. Clearly, the cuckold husband/hotwife idea is at odds with cultural conditioning and human tendencies toward jealousy and possessiveness. Although these traits may not be desirable, they are the norm and must be recognized. Even assuming that both partners are okay with going in this direction, most of society isn’t. With most people there is still a sigma associated with a promiscuous wife and a husband that lets his wife have extramarital sex. Most people who find out about this will respond negatively toward both partners. This can be a problem in a work environment where “character” is a part of job performance and promotion considerations. (A common male chauvinistic attitude with roots in the “wife as the husband’s property” notion says that a husband should keep his wife “under control,” and if she has affairs she definitely isn’t “under control.”) While many couples are able to keep their sexual activities private, they may live with the fear that they may be found out. At the same time, self-employed people who live in large urban areas, or people who work around like-minded individuals probably won’t have this concern. All this being said, given the ever-increasing number of affairs, and the emerging attitudes about condoned affairs in countries such as Japan, one wonders if somewhere down the road to cultural enlightenment U.S. society won’t be ready to accept open relationships. We seem to be in the early stages of that now. Although the transition will certainly be bumpy, if we are able to shift our emphasis to love and commitment to hold relationships together, rather than the refutable doctrines about sexual exclusivity which simply cater to jealousies and insecurities, it would not only eliminate much heartache, but it would remove many of the “justifications” for dissolving relationships and an ever increasing divorce rate.”

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Hotwife Lifestyle - Understanding Our Man’s Hotwife Fantasy and How to Use That to Our Advantage

The fantasy of having a “Hotwife” is growing, in fact, research shows it is growing at a higher rate than a good majority of the other lifestyle alternatives, including the old staple of “swinging” and the modern “open relationship”.  Why is it that a fantasy that revolves around only one part of a relationship – the woman – going out and finding pleasure from another man more intriguing to an increasing number of men than going out and “getting some” for himself?  

Basic psychology tells us that men are highly competitive creatures.  They have a drive to compete with other males of the species for the best mate – this isn’t so much different than what happens in the animal kingdom.  Most men have an innate drive to compete with other men when it comes to the “best mate” or the “most attractive woman”.  With this being said, one of the reservations of most women who find out about their husband or partner’s Hotwife fantasy is that he is somehow “weaker” than the rest because he wants to give up his position as your only partner.  Is this really true, though?  Could the truth lie somewhere within today’s man’s loss of natural competition in everyday life, and a desire to maintain a level of competition after marriage or “monogamy”?  Is this weakness, or rather the ultimate confidence?  

Cuckholding aside, because this aspect of the fantasy requires a bit more in terms of a “woman led” relationship, and a bit more from the man in terms of a desire for mental sadomasochism, a good majority of men enjoy the idea that they have been able to “capture” the best mate and even when she’s out having amazing physical and emotional experiences with men who may have qualities that actually supersede their own – a better body, a larger cock, youth, more prowess in bed – their woman actually WANTS to come back to them at the end of the night.  While most Hotwife-Husbands do get some level of turn-on from the jealousy and the possibility that their Hotwife may actually be enjoying their dates more than they enjoy being “at home”, the overwhelming desire is the competition and the “win” in terms of having a wife who chooses them again and again even after being allowed to go out and have other men.  

As Hotwives, we may be the focus of the fantasy, but there is that deeper and more psychological desire of a man who, even after committing to one woman, is able to compete with other males sexually.  This is why the desire for “reclaiming” a Hotwife after a date is so strong – it’s actually been scientifically proven that men who are able to reclaim a partner after she has been with someone else have an increase in testosterone levels, which means stronger desire, more powerful erections, longer lasting erections, and an overall stronger sex drive.  So, what does this mean for us as Hotwives?

He Enjoys the Jealousy, Go with It

As women we’ve learned that inducing some jealousy can actually be a good thing when it comes to dating – before we’ve found our “person”.  We use our female prowess to keep the men who we are seeing guessing…why?  Because they seem more interested in us when it seems as though we may not be 100% there.  So, if this works in the dating world, why wouldn’t it work once we’re married? In contrast, women typically don’t respond as well, or in the same way to jealousy – we tend to worry, question, and sometimes shut down if we feel that he might be “just not that into us”.  Naturally, because of our own feelings on the matter, we tend to avoid making our men jealous once we’ve committed to them, because we, ourselves don’t want to feel as though we’re in constant competition with other, more attractive, sexier, younger, etc., women.  Why would we do something to the man that we love that we, ourselves, would hate?

For men, though, and especially those with Hotwife fantasies, jealousy is a big component and tool for us to keep our men hot and bothered.  Sometimes just the mere mention of being flirted with by that cute guy at our favorite restaurant, or our interest in the sexy personal trainer at the gym is enough to send our men into a sexual frenzy.  It doesn’t take a lot to feed the fantasy.  It’s not ALL about dates and recounting how well we got worked over in the bedroom (and how much we loved it), though that is the ultimate turn on for our men, it’s also about the little things – the mention of our interest in someone else, the sexy messages that we send to potential lovers or Bulls, the “tease” of how much we loved what our last Bull did for us and how much we’re looking forward to doing it again.  Remember, this ignites the “competition” element of things, which is natural for men.

The More You Enjoy it, the More He Enjoys it

You may be thinking, “But I’m doing it for him, I’m not doing it for myself” (a common theme by A LOT of Hotwives), but in reality, our men WANT us to enjoy our encounters. They want to hear about what this “other guy” did for or to is that sent us over the edge, and yes, they want to hear what we liked better about the “other guy”.  I know it seems crazy, because we don’t want to imagine our men, even if we did allow them to be with other women, thinking that their “others” were better, sexier, hotter or had something that we don’t.  That’s because we don’t have that “competition drive” like our men do.

Let’s face it, despite what our men tell us – “It’s all about your pleasure” or “I don’t get anything out of it unless you’re enjoying it, because I love you so much” – this isn’t some ultimate “unselfish” thing our men are doing for us.  These things come out of their mouths, but what they are really saying is “I want to know that you came three times while he was fucking you, and you STILL want to come home to me”.  It’s their kink, and we have to understand it.  

So, if you’ve actually taken the step into the world of Hotwifing, you’re going to have to learn how to properly tease your man into believing that, just maybe, your Bull was better than him in some ways.  Whenever you think “But I’m only doing it for him”, follow that us with “I’m doing it for him and he WANTS to know that I absolutely enjoyed it”.  Find some aspect of your encounter that was mind-blowing, and recount, in great detail exactly what it was that sent you over the edge.  This may require a little bit of embellishment, and that’s OKAY…trust me…embellishment is your friend in this situation.  Tell your man about your Bull’s amazing cock, how good if felt, how good he tasted, how fantastic he was at oral sex, etc.  These are the things that will ramp up that competition streak in your man and make him want to reclaim you with increased vigor and desire.  

The More You Want Someone Else, The More Your Man Wants You

Again, you’re playing on the competition and the teasing aspect of things here…  The more that you act as if you WANT to be a Hotwife, the more that your husband or partner is going to WANT you.  His desire for you is going to skyrocket, his sexual desire for you is going to make it so that he’s ready to chew his own leg off to get you back in bed.  I have experienced this firsthand many times…if I am completely honest about an “encounter” and admit to “D” that my Bull was lacking in some way, or I didn’t quite “get there”, he isn’t nearly as turned on as when I tell him about how amazing things were.  I don’t like or believe in lying, but I do advocate for being selective and stretching the truth…maybe your lover wasn’t the best at giving oral sex, but maybe he was an amazing kisser, so a good answer would be “he was amazing with his mouth” and leave the rest up for interpretation.  

We’re women.  We are strong and capable and we are smart.  And the truth is, this is a GAME we are playing for and with our husbands/partners, so we need to get our heads into the game. Furthermore, this is an intellectual game, and we need to use our intellects to get to where we want to be.  Where do we want to be?  We want to have a husband/partner who is absolutely drooling over us, believes we are the ultimate sexual goddess, and in is jealous enough to realize that in order to “compete” they will need to step up their own game in order to “keep” us satisfied – be that with amazing sex, extra romance, other rewards, or all of the above.  

Happy Hotwifing!

-S

How To Prepare For Your First Cuckolding Adventure

I was sent a message yesterday—a beautiful message—with an announcement that I’m sure all y'all reading this will love as much as me. I’ll keep her name/account anonymous, as always. Here’s what she wrote:

Good evening! I told my husband that I’m ready to try this for real. Not sure what the next step should be. We are in our 40s and aren’t exactly the bar-hopping social types. Plus we met and dated before Internet dating apps were a thing. So any advice you have for us from how to find someone to how to prepare ourselves mentally and emotionally for the experience would be welcomed. Thank you!

I told you it was a beautiful message!

I know this much, after writing back and forth a few times over the past year or two… She and her husband have been walking along the edge of the cuckolding pool for a few years, sharing fantasies and commenting back and forth via Tumblr, waiting until the water was just right to dip their toes in.

Well… It’s cannonball time!!

Imagine the excitement her husband felt hearing that she was finally ready… I bet he’s jerked off a thousand times since hearing the news!! And that’s what I love the most about cuckolding, especially a first-time event… Everyone is fulfilling a fantasy. It’s the ultimate Win-Win. And even better than the fulfillment of fantasies, they’re creating an event that will last forever.

Even if their first time is a one-off event, they can relive it forever—every smile and kiss, the fresh taste of a new man, the desperate sounds of her need bursting through her married lips, and the orgasms… Oh, so many orgasms.

I get countless men asking me how to turn their wives into… well, into someone like me. So I get an extra charge when it’s the wife asking about this. That means it’s really going to happen for both of them. I know it’s just a matter of time before they have their first adventure. So, if I can give them a little advice and added confidence while preparing them for the impending mental tornado that’s about to rip through them (in the best of ways), then taking the time to write all of this will have been well worth it.

A first-time cuckolding event hits hard. The closer or more in love with your partner you are, the harder it hits. If the guy isn’t prepared, then it can knock him out. Almost all of them come back from it, though, begging for more once they realize that NOTHING will ever come close to how that pleasure-soaked dagger made them feel.

You will come to crave it just as she craves him. You’ll both need more.

But that first adventure must be a positive one. So rather than go back and forth with a few lines of advice and encouragement, I wanted to write a full guide and share it with everyone, hoping to help even more couples prepare for their first adventure—and to ensure it will be the first of many.

The advice I’m about to give will be targeted toward married or long-term couples who’ve already agreed to have their first adventure—no more trying to talk one or the other into it. It’s happening, so let’s get to it…

Part I: Develop A Plan For Your First Adventure

I’ve found that the longer a couple has been together (especially those who’ve been monogamous), the more apt they are to develop a plan. As someone who waited a couple years before acting on my own desire to do this, I know what it’s like—and I was a teenager!

Spontaneity will come with time. I’m not here to talk about the evolution of a cuckolding couple, but that will definitely be a part of it.

I talked to some of you, reading this now on Patreon, long before deciding to cuckold my boyfriend for the first time. Well, at least long before admitting to myself that it was inevitable. Once we let ourselves go down this path, it’s almost impossible to jump off. The need is there, growing and feeding on every image or video of great sex that you see and hot guy that you meet. It strikes you HARD when you’re masturbating and even harder when having sex with your boyfriend or husband, calling to you… There’s something greater out there, just waiting for you… You deserve this… It’s time.

Once I knew it was my time, I developed a plan to talk my boyfriend into it. Since this guide is for couples who are already there, I’ll move on to the first bit of planning.

Part II: Emotional Understanding

I’ll start by advising you this: Your first adventure should be with a stranger.

Sharing someone you both know adds a wrinkle you don’t need for your first adventure. There should be no feelings or history between you and the man you choose. Remember, these are my opinions and some of you might feel the other way on this, but I’m mostly looking out for my women out there. You see, the men (for the most part) are all-in. They want to live out a hot sexual fantasy and let everything fall where it may. I can hear their thoughts right now:

What woman wouldn’t want to have sex with someone new? I’m telling her I’m cool with it, and that he can have a bigger dick than me… Doesn’t she love orgasms? I know she does!! What’s there to think about? We’ll deal with the emotional fallout after it’s over. I’ll be fine either way. At least I’ll have something hot to jerk off about for the rest of my life!! I’m ready. You ready? —- Then, when she finally agrees, he’s like: Woo Hoo!! Now, let’s find you the biggest cock this side of the Mississippi… or two.. or three… how many do you think you could handle? You must want at least five, right?!??

I’m only just slightly joking here. lol - But you get my point. A woman can get overwhelmed with the “push”. She’s going to wonder what she could possibly do to satisfy YOU and be enough. Yes, she’s thinking about you. She wants to make sure you’re really going to be okay with what she’s about to do. Guess what… You’re right to think she wants someone with a bigger dick. Of course she loves orgasms. Yes, she knows this will be one of the hottest things she’ll ever get to do. BUT she’s also more of a pragmatist. She knows that tomorrow will eventually come and your cute little cock won’t be stealing all the blood from that male brain of yours. She knows you may be all about it until it happens.

She wants to protect you… As confident and determined as you are about what you want, she’ll never believe you. Sorry guys, but you’ll have to earn that trust from her. That won’t be earned in bed with fantasy talk. The truth is, you won’t be able to earn it until AFTER the first adventure ends. She is going into this thing blind, and she’s counting on you to support her.

Let me add one quick thing about creating “rules” for your adventure like “no kissing”: DO NOT SET RULES. They will only be broken. If a guy can put his cock inside you, then he should be allowed to do the same with his tongue.

As for condoms and safe sex… that’s worth a discussion. Personally, I love nothing more than feeling the real thing inside me… the heat of him… and don’t get me started on the gush of hot cum. Mmmmmm

Part III: Choosing The Right Man

Rule #1: WHAT YOUR GODDESS WANTS, YOUR GODDESS GETS! You want her to experience the best things in life and be happy on this day and every day going forward, yes? Then you need to go with her flow. You can suggest anything you want, but let her be the final decision maker. Then, once she’s made that decision, you need to support it. This is crucial for turning this into a long-term thing.

Since she gets to choose the man, she also gets to choose how and where it happens. Most married or long-term couples prefer doing this on a vacation where the other guy couldn’t possibly pop back into their lives. However, this (practically) eliminates the ability to see him again if he was amazing. So I’d ask the woman what she wants. Would she rather have it be a guaranteed one-off adventure for the first time? If so, plan a vacation. If you’re thinking of having a somewhat local experience, then it can even be an hour or two drive away—someone you won’t run into at the grocery store or at church. Then, even though he’s “far” away, he’s close enough to do it again.

Why would I recommend that as a possibility to consider? Because of Aaron, my first. I’ve gone back to him so many times I’ve lost count. I can’t imagine a world where I only got to have him that once. That being said, I can totally understand the vacation one-off plan too.

Whether you’re at home or on vacation, that means you’ll have to choose between a real-life meeting or an internet setup. Which do I recommend? It totally depends on what makes the woman more comfortable. Personally, I’ve done both—lots and lots of both. I prefer a live meet for a lot of reasons, mostly because of the vibe factor. How a man moves, talks, breathes and smells (pheromones?) all have an effect on me. Nothing hits me harder than his eyes, though—the way he makes me feel when he looks at me. You don’t get that over the internet.

On vacation, however, there’s a lot of bonuses to an internet meeting via a hookup app like Tinder. You’re nearly guaranteed to find someone local and you can do a hit or miss strategy over however many nights you’re away. Even the idea of going on the meet will be a massive turn on for you both. Whether things work out with the guy or not, you’ll be dressed up and the very idea you were ready to bring someone home that night will lead to crazy hot sex! So line one up for a festive-style bar meeting each night. You could even do two per night at different locations if the first one doesn’t work out. Meeting and chatting are easy, but here are some points of interest:

Don’t be shy about asking him questions. If how “big” they are doesn’t matter to you then don’t ask. If it matters, then you NEED to ask and go ahead and get a picture or ten as well. We each have certain things we want in a man and it’s up to you to check those boxes ahead of time so you’re not disappointed later. Pictures are a must, obviously, and don’t be shy about asking for specifics. Make sure you tell him you’re married (or with a long-term boyfriend) and what his role in all this will be.

If you plan on doing a real-life meeting then you have to decide how involved you want your husband/man to be. Should he wait at the other end of the bar? Should he wait in the hotel room and text with you throughout the night? When do you tell hot stranger guy that you have a guy back at your place who wants to watch? That last one, I can help you with. You have to tell the guy at some point, right? I find it best to lead with it. Yup… Guys love it—especially Alpha types, which is who we want to find. We want a guy who’ll have no problem fucking us in front of the love of our lives, and who makes a show out of it. Go ahead, teach that boy how I like it. Show him what an orgasm is supposed to look like.

Leave the wedding ring on and lay it all out there. It’s a turn ON not off. Same thing online - don’t hide your situation. Lead with it.

As with most things in life: be fearless and you’ll be rewarded. If you see someone who interests you, throw them those eyes… Spark a conversation. Life is waiting for you out there, but sometimes you have to take it. Let him know what you’re looking for early on. Sometimes the more a guy talks, the less I want him. That’s not even his fault, I’m just a fickle bitch. The quicker you can ask him to take you back to your room, the better it will be for both of you. Don’t be shy. You’re a Hot Wife in the making, so act like it!

Part IV: Supporting Her - Before Your First Adventure

This is where my boyfriend SHINES. His actions and words put me into Goddess mode before my “dates” where I quickly sink into submissive whore mode for that other man. But, when all is said and done, his loving eyes and knowing tongue have me feeling like a beautiful Princess—even as I lay there shaking and sweating—a hyper-orgasmic, cum-filled mess.

It’s in these moments where we’ve bonded closer than ever. I know it sounds crazy, but it’s true. Walking on a beach holding hands is nice, but having the man who loves you dress you up for a date with someone else is next level. Hearing how beautiful you look before he sends you off into their arms is something I can hardly put to words.

If you plan on searching for a man via an online app then may I suggest you order him between your legs while you scroll and swipe… Every now and again flash him the screen and show him the men you like best. Grind those images into his head while he grinds his tongue into your pussy. Talk to him while you do it… “You like preparing me for other men, don’t you?” - “I bet this guy has a really big cock.” - and show him your matches. Read the things men say to you and what you return to them. It will become a regular thing between you both, trust me! Whether you plan on meeting more men or not… It’s a fun cuckolding exercise.

Men, keep your focus on her. I want to hear how beautiful I look, how lucky those men will be to have me, how yummy I taste, how wet I am for them, how I deserve whatever I want… During sex in the lead up to your first adventure—tell her all the things you want for her. If you want him to be bigger and fuck her harder… You want him to make her cum harder than you ever have… You want him to make her moan and scream and call out his name and forget that you’re even there… You want to see the pleasure in her eyes… the lust and need growing with every deep thrust until she begs for his cum.

Don’t be shy. Tell her what you want. Odds are, she wants all those things too!

On the day of your first adventure or first night out on the hunt, the preparation begins long before you walk out the door. Men, you’ll want to pamper her all day. Make your first date tactics look like a train-wreck. You should ALWAYS treat her this way, but on this day in particular, she has risen to a new level… Make her feel it.

Buy her something new to wear. Help pick out her bra and panties or lingerie to go under whatever dressing that other man will be removing later. Think classy/sexy on the outside while diving into your kink-zone for what’s under. Whatever makes her feel sexiest…

Help her get dressed and watch longingly as she applies her makeup. You’re her servant for the day. Her pet.

Women… Tell him what you want when you want it. The more you take control on this day, the more he’ll love it. Be the Goddess he sees in you. Make him pull up your stockings and affix your heels. Put him on his knees whenever possible. Make a comment about your lip gloss/stick when applying it… If you’re excited, tell him. If you’re wet, tell him. If you want him to give you a quick lick before pulling those panties up, order him to do it.

It’s up to you what he does during your meeting. Do you want him to go with you or wait? If he’s to wait, you should tell him not to jerk off and if you have a cage then lock him up. You want him to be PEAK turned on when you arrive home with another man. Point is, whatever you want him to do, then tell him.

Part V: Supporting Her - During Your First Adventure

She may want to experience her first time (cuckolding you) on her own, without you watching. If so, there are a few things you’ll want to do to enhance that for the both of you. Text him throughout. Have a couple pictures taken (especially one before and another after). 

If you’re up for it, give him a call and put the phone down so he can listen. When you return, order him between your legs and tell him everything that happened while he cleans you up and makes you cum.

If the plan is for the husband/boyfriend to be there then have some idea to what his role will be. If not, it could get uncomfortable. Will it start as a threesome and turn into a watching session? Will he be relegated to a chair in the corner? Will you hold hands and keep him close? Do you want him dressed or naked or with just his cock hanging out so you can play with it or suck him from time to time? There are no right or wrong answers, but you should have an idea of what you want before it happens.

If you want my suggestion, I’d say to start with him watching. That’s easiest for you to get into things with your “guest”. Pretend he’s not there as you start your foreplay, then start by flashing him your eyes… smile at him and let him see the lust on your face… Wait until your guest is fully hard before involving your husband/boyfriend. If you want to talk to him, tell him how good something feels and ask if he likes watching your mouth wrapped around a big cock. Emphasize how big the other man is (if he’s bigger) and how amazing his tongue feels… He wants you to love every second of it. Every word you say will be etched in his mind forever, so go for it. I turn myself on even more when I’m talking to Mark. I love watching him squirm. lol

Men, as the night goes on, be ready to do as ordered. If she wants you to hold her hand or kiss her lips (even if she’s just sucked his cock), then you do it… and do it passionately. It’s okay to let your sub side shine. The more a submissive helpful pet you are to her, the more she’ll enjoy the contrast of the powerful man pumping orgasms through her soul. You should both embrace those roles—feed off that dynamic.

Part VI: Supporting Her - After Your First Adventure

Men… The most important thing you can do for her after a watch session is to make her feel like a beloved Princess. While she’s laying in the post-sex mess of sweat, drool and cum… Laying there a well-used, listless, leaking vessel on the verge of passing out… You need to kiss and love on her like never before. Show her how much you love her and enjoyed the incredible show she just put on for you. Connect through your eyes and every kiss across her body, the one she just gave to another man. Breathe in their shared essence while lapping up every drop. If he did his job correctly, then it will be everywhere, so take your time.

Don’t ask a million questions. There’s all the time in the world for that. In those moments right after, even when that other man is getting dressed or walking out the door… You will treat her like a fallen angel right after that stranger just used her like a filthy whore—and she, like you, will have loved every last second of it.

Prove that her pleasure IS your pleasure. Her ascension to Goddess is complete. However supportive or submissive or helpful you’ve been up to this point in time to this love of your life… You’re going to go further from this day forward.

No matter how good that other man just made her feel… No matter how many times he made her orgasm or came inside her body—there is nothing he could ever do to make her feel as loved or as powerful as this. You’ll both feel it in those dripping wet moments after you’ve cleaned her up then kissed your way to her mouth for the ultimate kiss.

Because no kiss has ever tasted quite as sweet as a cuckolding kiss when I can taste so clearly another man’s hot cum on my boyfriend’s loving lips and he looks me in the eye to tell me how much he loves me. When you hear those words for yourself, you’ll be thinking, You better… Because we’re doing this again!!

XoXo Jenny

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