For All My Fellow Aussies Remember, Voting Yes In The Referendum Quite Literally Means That Indigenous

i have not been able to stop thinking about the comments under iskall’s video comparing these two clips when i watched this episode LMAO

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So like, is a trans woman who likes the smell of gasoline simply not a real trans woman now? Because only male-brained people like the smell of gasoline because Man Like Car Vroom Vroom Car Manly

The idea that gender is biological or linked to anything biological is bioessentialism. Aside from being intersexist, this idea is ALSO transphobic.

This is just "gender is what's in your pants" but with neurobiology most of you don't know jack shit about.

The brain is not sexually dimorphic to the point you could call ANY brain 'sexed', in any capacity. The structures within the brain that vary in size in relation to sex traits (insula, left amygdala, hippocampus, claustrum, pallidum, and a few others) are slight, and only loosely connected. These traits are sexually dimorphic only in a non-rigid way, such as height or facial proportions. Being tall is not seen as a strictly 'male' trait the way having a beard or testicles is. Being short is not seen as a strictly 'female' trait the same way having a uterus or breasts is.

We don't call tall cis women or short cis men intersex, why the hell would we call people with slightly uncommon neurological structures vaguely associated with sex intersex? Not to mention, we have literally no idea if these neurobiological variances are even what causes gender dysphoria.

By nature of these things being averages; There are cis people with these brain differences who are literally perfectly fine being cis and have no dysphoria. There are trans people without them with dysphoria so debilitating they don't go outside and prefer showering with the light off.

Further on dysphoria, I dislike the way it is all called "gender dysphoria", as if social dysphoria and physical dysphoria are the same thing. You can wish to change your sex traits REGARDLESS of your gender identity. Yes. Cis people can have dysphoria and can go on HRT and get surgeries because they have gender dysphoria, without ever changing their pronouns, going by a different name, or identifying as a different gender. Trans people can be comfortable with their bodies despite fully identifying as a different gender, getting a new name, pronouns, etc.

Gender is social. Not biological. The idea of "biological gender" is inherently transmedicalist.

Aside from this, co-opting intersexuality and making it about perisex people because your dad has weird double standards regarding intersex & perisex trans people is absolutely unacceptable. Fighting intersexism with more intersexism just makes you (shocker), an intersexist.

Your parents said "Only intersex people can be trans", and instead of responding with "no, that's wrong, here's why-", you went "You're right! All trans people are intersex", how on earth does agreeing with your parents' bigotry help intersex or trans people?

3rd life was like the start of their transitions to me

woe, horsiedubs be upon ye

A guide to designing wheelchair using characters!

I hope this helps anyone who's trying to design their oc using a wheelchair, it's not a complete guide but I tried my best! deffo do more research if you're writing them as a character

SAY IT WITH ME: MEDICAL GASLIGHTING IS MALPRACTICE

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Heyyy!!

So I've recently read a lot of your comics about top surgery, and I really resonate with your experience (I haven't had it myself but I'd like to). I've recently been exploring my own gender and realising I might be non binary, but I guess I feel sort of an imposter in that I want to keep my name and pronouns (afab), despite feeling like I never got the memo about what a "woman" is, which I know is fine, but I guess I was wondering how the shift from your agab into realising you were nb felt?

Like, you seem to describe your gender as sort of unknowable and indefinable, and I guess that's sort of how I feel? I just want to be... More me. I guess what I'm really asking is, how would you define/feel about that shift into realising you were nonbinary, do you still feel connected to your agab, how do you reconcile the two?

Sorry for the long ask!

Hi, this is such a good question! I actually DO still feel pretty connected to my agab. I feel like I am a girl but also more than a girl but also not enough of a girl, simultaneously. (Weirdly, I never ever feel like a woman, and definitely not a man, but I do feel like an adult at least some of the time.) Top surgery was 100% the right decision for me; my body feels so much more correct and I am grateful every single day this procedure was accessible to me. (I was on a low dose of T for a year and a half too, and I basically just got biceps and a sliiiightly lower voice out of it. We stan.) I simply don't have strong feelings about how these things do or do not map onto gender identity or other people's perceptions of my gender. I am generally perceived as female, and that's fine! Like, close enough! I often feel somewhere BETWEEN cis and trans, or even between cis and nonbinary, and sometimes I joke that I'm just "nonbinary for insurance purposes." I mostly use she/her pronouns, although won't object to they/them. I like my "feminine" name -- I chose it myself years ago for reasons unrelated to gender and I have no plans to change it again. In terms of gender presentation I'm usually somewhere in the "tomboy femme" zone. Basically, I've been through a medical transition but not a social transition. Which is not very common, or at least I haven't seen much representation of it! (Be the bad trans representation you want to see in the world, i guess??)

Even though the words are often used interchangeably, I feel more alliance to genderqueer as a label than nonbinary, because nonbinary feels too clinical and "third checkbox"y to me, whereas genderqueer feels more expansive and undefinable and dynamic, with space for the ways in which I both am and am not performing girlhood correctly. When pressed to pick a gender word for myself, that one feels the closest. But if I'm filling out a government form or whatever? Yeah sure F is fine.

A lot of where I land with this stuff, though, is just kind of relaxing my grip on language. Top surgery was a relief, it helped me feel present in and connected to my body. Ultimately it doesn't matter much to me how much of that was *gender* dysphoria and how much of it was just... something I wanted, a way to make my body feel more like mine, to align my mental image of myself with the thing I had to stuff into clothes and walk around the city every day. I believe very strongly in bodily autonomy, and in making our lives as easy and comfortable and joyful as we can for ourselves, without needing to have a clean and tidy explanation for our choices. It is very possible to know with reasonable certainty that you want something, that it will be a net positive for your life, without being able to articulate, even to yourself, WHY you want it. It doesn't need to have a bigger meaning than ahh yes, this feels right. At this point in my life, I'm more invested in marveling at the sheer improbability of my own existence than in wedging myself into the taxonomy of known and acceptable gender narratives. I'm just a person, here for the merest twinkle of a moment in cosmic history, making soup and knitting baby hats and admiring bugs and singing off-key and cutting my own hair and doing my gosh darn best to light my tiny patch of night sky with stories so that you (and you, and you) feel less alone on your own journey through the unfurling dark. Gender is just such an inconsequential detail in the narrative of my life, and pretty open to reader interpretation anyway.

Not having to wear bras is pretty great though ngl

I’ve been in debilitating pain lately. I don’t talk a lot about my chronic pain online here. But I think it’s worthy of talking about.

People don’t realize just the effects of chronic pain. What it does to you, and how it affects you. Yes, I’m in pain ALWAYS. And yes, sometimes it’s worse than others. But just because my pain is worse one day, doesn’t mean my pain is gone the next. I want people to realize the extent and life with chronic pain that’s debilitating.

I use my wheelchair everyday now, and most of the time, all day, everyday. My laundry is STACKED cause I haven’t been able to do it. Mountains of clothes in my room. I don’t shower often cause it causes me even more pain and is exhausting, so I have gotten sores. From using my wheelchair so much, I’ve also started to develop mild pressure sores. It sucks!

I’m out of my pain medication currently, just took my last dose, and I’m still suffering. Every day of my life, I’m suffering. And now, more than ever. My pain has continued yk get worse, with no end in sight, and it’s sad. It’s so sad.

I hate being in pain, and I wish more people talked about debilitating pain that’s makes you stuck in bed all day.

i uh,, dont think i posted these here, so heres yalls freak bug/ cosmic she/he