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i am about to bestow upon you the secret butter technique. i am sorry, but it is french. i am sorry again, this only works with cow butter. i am certain plant based butters wouldn’t work, and alternative animal butters may or may not work

has this ever been you: you have a nicely steamed vegetable, or maybe you want to make the best butter noodles, but you know that if you put butter on those it’ll just melt and you end with kind of greasy noodles or vegetables? don’t you wish it was instead a luscious buttery glaze?

introducing: beurre monté

you will take a small sauce pan, and begin heating it with 1-2 tablespoons of water (use very little water) and bring it to a hard simmer or boil

turn the heat down slightly, and add Butter. how much? however much you dare. (start with 3-4 tablespoons and go from there)

you are going to either whisk Aggressively or you can pick up the saucepan, still holding it over the heat, and swirl aggressively so the butter is skating around the sides of the pan

done correctly, you will have liquid butter that is still emulsified. you have made Butter Sauce. season it with a little salt, and toss whatever you want in it.

if you’re butter splits, i’m sorry. you didn’t agitate it enough to maintain the emulsion, and now you have melted butter.

you can use this knowledge to make other sauces by swapping out the water for another liquid. white wine becomes beurre blanc. red wine is beurre rogue.

you want to CUM? sweat minced shallot in a tiny bit of butter, add white wine and cook it out until it’s reduced by about half. then whisk butter in hard. a few flecks of minced thyme or fennel frond stirred thru, and you eat that with a nice seared fish? or scallop? or even shrimp? wow. you will Nut

your boxed mac and cheese game can also be elevated by cooking your pasta and making a beurre monté first, tossing your pasta in that and adding the cheese packet. wow. hey; you’ll cum

go forth now with this butter secret

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BUT I’M A CHEERLEADER 1999 ⚝ dir. Jamie Babbit

one of my final college assignments! we were given a small excerpt of The Circus of Dr. Lao to let it inspire a totally new story. i wrote a short story about a young boy and an ancient water serpent! 💧

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RB IF YOU AGREE

and very, very often, self care is not plants and ice rollers and fluffy blankets of peace.

it’s standing over your kitchen sink and crying while doing the dishes because you just want to go back to bed but the dishes need done. and you don’t know why you’re crying but you're trusting you need it. and you aren’t listening to the music that pulls you into a spiral; you’re listening to some cheerful shit your friend sent you. it’s getting up and staring at your fridge and closing your eyes and then cooking yourself food even though you hate it and it’s miserable. because you know that you’d cook for your friend, and you are trying to befriend yourself. it’s dragging yourself into the shower because you know you’ll feel better afterwards. it’s doing mundane tasks with patience, cursing under your breath, trying desperately to give yourself grace. grace is the beginning of care. care is the beginning of love.

we think it’s supposed to be peace and yet the most powerful self care moments are when we hate everything but especially ourselves. and life does not feel worth the loving. to look into that pain and yet choose to care for yourself in however many pieces you are — that is care. love. grace. trust. belief. it hurts because it’s love where there was no love before. it heals because it believes there will be love, one day, soon.

The thing is that humans are social creatures. We are meant to be with people in groups with love in all kind of forms. The way society is now it promotes the exact opposite. It promotes individuality but to an extent that is actually harmful. That kind of loneliness can't be solved by self love because as the person already said self love isn't what is missing here.

I kinda forgot where I was going here but my point is that I agree with OP and that I think being with people that not only give you romantic or sexual love but also platonic love helps. And that isn't necessarily restricted to one partner. In my opinion it would actually be too much to burden one person with.

On being alone: 

whenever I talk about feeling lonely (which is, unless I’m stressed, probably once every 2-3 months) people tell me I need to learn to be by myself and self love is a thing that comes up a lot.

all of those people are in relationships.

I get very KNEE JERK defensive about this, and I just want to explain why here. It’s not that there’s an element of truth to it - logically, if I could be truly truly happy with not sharing my world with anyone or anything else, man my emotional life would be fantastic! and no one would feel the need to shack up or get together, either. This is my point: I think there’s a blurred line or assumption that if you feel lonely, it means you are co-dependant and actively seeking out validation from others.

so I just want to dispel that myth. It is POSSIBLE to feel lonely. it is possible to be in a relationship and feel lonely. it is possible to be strong, sure of yourself and independent, and still feel lonely. it’s actually very normal and OKAY to feel those things. being co-dependant and too reliant on the validation of others is really not the same thing has feeling lonely. when people tell me this is the problem I have, I want to tell them: ‘no, really, it isn’t. I’ve been co-dependant, and this isn’t it. I’ve gone too far the other way - I spend too much of my time alone and have trouble/anxiety meeting even my closest friends - co-dependancy is definitely NOT the problem here’

Putting that aside, I also really hate the idea that loving yourself is the magic key to finding a perfect relationship. absolute BS. loving yourself is so so so important - but placing another person on the end of that goal is just another way of saying ‘if you reach this impossible goal, then you’ll finally be happy forever.’ Neither of these things are true, and it needs reframing. it’s important to give yourself respect and standards, but truly loving yourself is an ever-changing goal. plenty of people meet people who change them for the better, or not, where you are at in life really makes no difference - and for me, it’s dangerous to state otherwise and equate that to self blame if you haven’t.