Maybe The Answer To Some Mental Health Problems Like Depression And Anxiety Isn’t Just Therapists Telling

i hate hate HATE the impossible beauty standards in the trans community i hate people especially cis people (but even other trans people are guilty of this) sharing pictures of the same conventionally attractive trans models as "proof" that we can look "normal" (read: not only cis-passing but also extremely conventionally attractive) why the fuck do you need trans people to be supermodels and nothing less for you to respect us. why.

cis ppl can rb just dont add any stupid shit

It's even more fitting that the Mars 2020 rover is named Perseverance considering everything that's been going on in the world

i love in fantasy when its like “king galamir the mighty golden eagle and his most trusted advisor who would never betray him, gruelworm bloodeye the treacherous”

if you see this reblog and go through these carrds to spread awareness:

issues in latin america

issues in latin america

educate yourself

justice for hathras victim

justice for hathras victim

Information about the Hathras victim.Link to information to help and information about protests

femicides in mexico

femicides in mexico

quick description of what feminicides are and whats going on in mexico !

issuesinlatam

issuesinlatam

.

chilewokeup

chilewokeup

resources about chilean uprising

educate

educate

eduacte youself

Violence Against Women in Turkey

Violence Against Women in Turkey

Stand Together

Help the Armenian Community

Help the Armenian Community

Sources and information to help out and educating yourself about the different troubles Armenians are facing, that are generally overlooked.

sosnicaragua

sosnicaragua

help nicaragua out

LGBTQ+ IN POLAND

LGBTQ+ IN POLAND

please help!

I was also confused over my own tritype, this clears a few things up, thanks for spending time on this answer FunkyMbti!

Hey! I‘m (mostly) sure that I‘m an ENTP, but at the moment I‘m kind of struggling to find out my Enneagram type, because it seems like so many of them would apply. To be honest, my tritype is probably 379 but I don‘t know which core type fits me best. 7w6 is probably what I project most when I‘m around friends or people I want to “entertain“ but I‘m more of 3w2 in a professional environment. But then I read some time ago that your core type is often what you don‘t really like but grudgingly admit about yourself, which made me think of 9w8, especially because I didn‘t even consider ENTP for me before I knew about cognitive functions, so I probably don‘t always look like a stereotypical 7w8 ENTP if that makes sense. Do you have any tips about figuring out which one of your tritype is the core? Thanks!

Some people have resistance toward their core, yes. Others do not. I have known people to go “eww…. not me” and fight their core for a long time, and others who figure out their core instantly and embrace it as an explanation for the insanity in their personal life. So you need not consider one of your lower fixes as your core unless you have substantial evidence of being that number, including the defense mechanisms, core fears, and anxieties associated with it.

Odds are as an ENTP you’re a 7 core, since most of them are this. But you can start off by asking yourself what matters to you most: having fun, avoiding pain, and freedom from responsibility and obligation to a degree (which makes you something of a commitment phobe) or success end achievement even if it (for you, as an inferior Si) means sticking with something long after it has become boring to you, because it’s your goal. Do you live your life with specific goals in mind and put in the 24/7 workaholic behaviors needed to get there, or do you just kind of have a good time? Is your main problem projecting an aurora of supreme competence to impress other people (3) or is it bolstering up the mood and having fun and running out on things that get too hard (7).

3 and 7 are both assertive fixes which means with 9 last, keeping the peace really isn’t in the picture (meaning you could have a 6 wing) unless literally everyone involved in something is screaming at you now.  If you are a 9 first, though, your main motive in life will be avoiding anything unsettling, staying calm at all times, and quickly smoothing over conflict other than occasional 8 wing flare-ups.

- ENFP Mod

hi, Charity! I hope you’re doing well. I’m writing to you because a year or two ago I got into cognitive functions and typed myself as an INFP 4w5 after some reading. However, going through your WordPress pages (as well as learning that Nines have a tendency to mistype) has me rethinking some things, and I’d be curious about your observations if you have the time/inclination to share them… [deleted]

9 is a type rather like 6 and 3, in that it is universally misunderstood, and all three of them present differently in a person depending on their stacking, their fixes, and their MBTI type. Some 9s report never feeling angry, and some tell me they are infuriated almost all the time. So, some 9s are more aware of their anger, and others are not.

I guess the question for you would be – if you had to sacrifice being “me” in order to keep the peace in a relationship (put aside yourself), would/could you do it relatively easily? That suggests a 9 desire to stay calm and be at peace with yourself (avoiding inward and outer conflict) would outrank the desire to be “true to oneself.”

I get asked about 4-9 vs. 9-4 a lot, and for the latter, I usually point to Rose in Titanic as an example of a 4-9. She is STILL primarily all emotion (“I don’t know what this is, but I trust it… and I’m getting off this boat with you”), she has a tendency to view herself as superior to others (“the difference between Cal and my taste in art is I have some”), she is angry at not being allowed to be true to herself, and given the chance to do so, she embraces it happily. I have the feeling a lot of 4 cores would understand her completely, whereas a lot of 9 cores would “sort of” get her desire to be fully true to herself but also find her melodramatic. She often causes trouble with passive-aggressive behaviors (insulting Mr. Ismay at lunch and embarrassing Cal after he puts out her cigarette, for example) as a 4-9 that a 9-4 might avoid out of their lack of a desire to break a connection to the people around them.

For a 9-4, I’d look at Faramir from The Lord of the Rings. Gentle, peaceful, kind (as 9 cores tend to be), but still very wounded by his failures, prone to melancholic depression, internalizes criticisms deeply, out of his lower 4ish sense of being the “unwanted, unloved son” who must prove himself – but his 9w1 often chooses what is “right” (releasing Frodo) over what he feels. He’s a gut type, thus he goes off his instincts and his emotional responses are secondary. Less elitism, less desire to provoke trouble, less desire to assert himself, very 9ish in his need to maintain the peace. But he is by no means “weak.”

You sound more 9-4 to me than the reverse, just from what you wrote. As for whether you are an ENFP or not… a 9-core INFP is far more tolerant and permissive and open-minded (because 9s automatically see “all sides” / hearing an argument makes them nod and go “that’s fair too”) than other INFPs, due to the nature of 9 being fluid. So if you factor that in and still can’t decide, I’d ask yourself what you are more comfortable with using for hours at a time – Te or Si, and whether you can shut down your Fi to make a hard decision. ENFPs find that far easier than INFPs.

 - ENFP Mod

I love how irrelevant tumblr is. like no celebrities on here, no colleagues or family on here, no one’s famous off tumblr or making money, tbh no ones even updating the site like is there even any staff? who knows? it’s bliss

Shyness has a strange element of narcissism, a belief that how we look, how we perform, is truly important to other people.

Andre Dubus

“Every habit produces multiple outcomes across time. Unfortunately, these outcomes are often misaligned. With our bad habits, the immediate outcome usually feels good, but the ultimate outcome feels bad. With good habits, it is the reverse: the immediate outcome is unenjoyable, but the ultimate outcome feels good. […] The road less traveled is the road of delayed gratification. If you’re willing to wait for the rewards, you’ll face less competition and often get a bigger payoff. As the saying goes, the last mile is always the least crowded.”

— James Clear, Atomic Habits

You have two coworkers named John, one short and one tall. As you normally would in this situation, you call them Big John and Little John. One day the tall John tells you that he doesn’t like being called Big John. You’re a decent person and stop doing it. It turns out when his depression was at its worst, he gained a lot of weight, and even though he’s lost weight and is secure in his body image, being called Big John reminds him of that time. He’s much more comfortable being called Tall John, Old John, his last name, or just John

You call everyone dude. You were raised in an area where dude is an all-purpose term. One day your coworker Mary tells you that she doesn’t like being called dude. You’re a decent person and stop doing it. It turns out she’s trans, and even though she’s transitioned and is satisfied and secure in her body, being called dude makes her dysphoric. She’s much more comfortable being called girl, pal, or just Mary.

If situation one is so obvious, why isn’t two? Just be a decent person, don’t call people what they don’t want to be called, and don’t make them give you their reasons. It’s that simple