I don't know what it is. But I'm getting sick and tired of complaining. If you do that, that's fine; just don't tell me unless I am mentally relaxed or I ask you how you're doing. No offense to people who use venting to express their emotions in a healthy and productive way (I mean, I do that occasionally too). I just can't take it when I'm also getting stressed out and overwhelmed. It's more from childhood socialization so I am actively keeping myself in check for not judging over talking down on people who do that.
I think these two quotes just summarize why I need my peace. I find myself more tolerable to stress and the load of work I need to do in my life when I acknowledge that it sucks and move on. It is what it is!! And all I can do is do my part, try my best, and live another day 🩵
Started the day with a nice breakfast and an episode of Earl and Fairy =). Now, let's get down to business ~
Anime atm 😍: Earl and Fairy
✅ Breakfast
✅ Watch anime
✅ Check school emails
✅ Pay bills
✅ Buy A Little to The Left bundle 💖
✅ Rewatch Kaichou wa Maid-sama!
✅ Group project 1 paper (2 hours)
✅ Dinner
✅ Thesis (2 hours) - I did it 😭
✅ Play A Little to The Left
✅ Group project 2 paper (30 mins)
NONE!
[Ended at 1:30am] I can't believe I actually worked on everything I said I would do today. This is the first time this has ever happened 😭. I am so proud of myself! Even though not everything got finished, I think this is a good start. I am building trust in myself to be able to work consistently.
Thank you for y'all's support. Thank you for reading about my progress. This has been the most helpful thing I've done so far to get myself back on track. Thank you x100000000000 🩵
I like this post! It reaffirmed some things I've learned in the past =)
Two things I would modify from the first two bullet points under the first point are:
Be authentic: Don't fake it if you're feeling not OK, sad, or other negative emotions. You don't need to fully explain yourself (it's a privilege for the people who care about you and you trust). But don't hide your true self and put on a mask just because you don't want to scare people away. Life has its ups and downs. The right people for you are going to understand that we have our feelings and it's OK.
Understand what you needs and communicate your needs: I learned this from my therapy training. There are times we want to vent, to scream, to cry, to talk about our problems with someone else. If you have experienced people pulling away because you're talking about your problem or "complaining," it might not be because you shouldn't talk about your problems and just go figure it out yourself. It might be due to the people you talk to do not know what you need and they want to handle your problem based on their own way. They could also have low energy when you share with them and they do not have extra energy to share your pain. If you want to vent, ask the person you want to talk with if they have the time and energy for you to vent about what is going on. And if you cannot find someone to vent to and you know you need someone to give you a safe and non-judgmental space to talk, it is always an option to see a therapist and see if it is what you need.
Have a wonderful day, lovely humans 🩵
for the girlies who want more than just superficial relationships
be light, not draining. bring warmth, humor, and softness where you can. I always try to smile at people when I talk to them or see them, and people notice how I'm happy to hang out with them. just bringing a positive energy immediately draws people towards you.
try not to complain. everybody has struggles, and while venting can feel natural, it can also quietly drain the energy from conversations and people listening. personally, I struggle with this too. but, when we constantly focus on what's wrong, we unknowingly push people away. no one wants to feel like every conversation is a weight to carry.
instead, try adding something lighter or more meaningful. instead of saying, "I'm so stressed," try "this week is super busy, but I'm making time for a break soon." it's not about pretending that life's perfect, but being mindful of the energy you bring to a space.
show up with consistency. make plans for lunch and actually show up. remember small things that they say in conversations. it's always the greatest feeling when someone remembers that I had an important performance or difficult test and then ask me about it afterwards.
make eye contact. it's uncomfortable, I get it. but, when you look someone in the eye while they're talking to you, it makes you look 1) more engaged about what they're saying, and 2) more genuinely appreciative of their presence. practice doing it little by little every day, and soon, it will become like second-nature.
share stories, not just facts. I think that conversations come alive with small stories with details that make moments memorable. for example, instead of just saying “I had a phone as a kid because I was on the soccer team” (fact), i added layers: “I got a phone because I went to soccer matches as a kid! I was terrible at soccer, but I helped the team by tricking opponents into thinking I’d get the ball. basically, I was a glorified decoy” (story). true story, by the way.
greet them by name. when you see them while walking, make an effort to remember their name and say hi. I feel that greetings come off as much more genuine when I address them personally.
if you don't know their name, still make an effort to smile and wave. I would still appreciate it if someone takes the time to acknowledge me, even for a little moment, because it shows that they care.
take compliments. I'll be the first to admit, I struggle with this too. but, isn't it a bit awkward when you give someone a compliment and they instantly deflect it with "oh but I look so ugly today like my hair is whack and my eyeliner is uneven" (calling myself out...)? instead, I think it's best to thank them genuinely for noticing you, even if you don't fully agree with their compliment. receive it with gratitude, not self-criticism. it's not about actually being perfect, but appreciating the kindness behind their words.
compliment them back, and be observant about it. you could just say, "you look amazing too" (though that's still nice). but, the next step could be noticing something specific, like their earrings or the way they carry themselves. or, share what you actually admire about them, like their kindness or determination. it's about making your compliment feel personal and thoughtful.
if you admire someone, tell them. it only sounds fake if you make it fake.
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remember, real connections are built on authenticity and kindness. it's not about being perfect. it's about being genuine, showing up, and appreciating the people around you. now, you just have a few more tools on how to make these connections and be the friend that you would appreciate in your own life.
thank you for reading all the way through as always. wishing everybody all the good things in the world and a blessed rest of your day <3
sending lots of love, q's playlist
Journal
I got into a car accident with my friend today... This was my very first one with an actual collision. Crazy enough, I was in shock at first and cried, but then once I realized what was going on, my brain decided to shut out my emotions and be logical about all the things I needed to do and all the people I needed to contact.
I don't know, I feel like I need to be the strong one in this situation. I can see how distressed my friend is and how guilty she is for the accident, and I just can't bring myself to make her feel any worse. There's a lot on my mind now... Are my pain and bruises going to go away soon? Are my travel plans for Spring Break going to work out? Is my dog going to be OK after the accident? Am I actually suffering from internal bleeding? Lol I realize I have a morbid sort of humor as well.
Tbh writing this out makes me feel really sad about my progress with thesis. I was literally started a routine and tracking how I am doing each day, and then "bam!", life hits you in a way you never expected.
I mean, yes, I am grateful I survived (especially my friend and my dog) because someone could have died. And then what? Where do my emotions go? How do I process all of this? How can I express my feelings while not feeling like I'm hurting my friend?
It's going to be OK. That's what I keep telling myself. I truly believe in it. I just don't know how that's going to happen. We shall see...
Some study motivation before I start my day 🩵
I had a medical appointment this morning so I didn't start my part-time job until the afternoon, which also delayed my time to complete some schoolwork.
I find myself gravitating toward tasks that involve clinical work and blissfully neglecting my class assignments like 10-page papers and group presentations 😅 I haven't even looked at my thesis progress and created a new timeline yet. I don't think I have the mental energy to do any of this right now.
Maybe working with my energy and passion right now is the way to go ~
✅ medical appointment
✅ part-time work
✅ walk my dog
That's it for now, but I might come back and update this before the end of the day if I finish more tasks =)
Have a wonderful weekend, lovely humans 🩵
Started reading this Webtoon called "Ex-Love Review" and I couldn't stop until I can find the latest chapters. So I'm just gonna finish one task and head to bed...
✅ School ✅ Part-time job ✅ Phone call with partner ✅ Quiz ✅ Dinner ✅ Read Ex-Love Review ✅ Clinic report results x2 (finished in 30 mins?? Amazing!!)
⏹️ Shower (I'm gonna shower in the morning, I promise 🤞🏻)
[End of day: 1:05am] Got more done than I expected, but I definitely neglected some things 😅 I think I'm starting to burn out, which is why I started reading on Webtoon to get a dopamine hit. Need to figure out how I can better rest and do schoolwork at the same time... Good night 🩵
I appreciate the real people tagged here!!
Still new here, so I've only interacted with a handful of people lol
@yourstrulystudybuddy222 @lottiestudying (y'all's posts inspire a lot 🩵)
A friend threatened me to repost so I will!
Basically, there r tons of fake asses on tumblr who just want comments and followers, so someone started this to see who's actually a good friend. Everyone I tag better repost (and tag other people and preferably threaten them in a creative way as well) bc I'm high on caffeine and newfound lesbianism and will resort to violence.
@ey-theys-was-coronas
@fangirlhehe
I would tag more people but they're the only ones I've really interacted with-
Does anyone else use Notion to take notes and stay organized?
I thought I'd list a few tips of making Notion more fun to use as you study/journal! And perhaps some of it is already SUPER obvious so I'm sorry if this list ends up being useless🥹💗.
I'll be using a mock-garden journal template to point out the tips!
Add emojis to everything! It can honestly make it more fun to look at, even the calendar above looks cuter (double click to zoom in)!
But if that is a little overwhelming, but you still want to use emojis in a “quaint” way, you can make your database title a series of emojis. Like below!
I clicked the three dots, then clicked “edit database title.” I chose three tulips just to keep it on my garden-theme. So cute! 🌷🌷🌷
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Maybe you already new this but I struggled to figure this out at some point lol! At the very bottom of a table right after the "+ New page" row, if you hover you'll see the "calculate" row.
When you want to add/average/whatever just click the "More options"! Yay, math!
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This one is super simple. I find that sometimes a solid cover for gallery pages is really nice to look at.
So I’m prone to typing specific shades I’m looking for into the Unsplash menu:
What I do is, I click a page, go to 'change cover' and choose Unspalsh. Then type in something like “pastel green” or “baby pink”. If the options aren’t enough, you can go directly to unsplash.com and find a free one! Example below of lovely solid colors!
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You can easily change card size to a just the aesthetic of your galleries ! Go to the little three dots at the top of your gallery (shown above), click layout, then card size! Now you can choose between S, M, L!
Bonus tip: if you go to ‘card preview,’' still under layout, you can choose what will be displayed on the front of your cards.
In the above example, I chose ‘page content’ 'cuz all the bullet points and todo lists looked so neat! Hehe! But you can choose 'page cover' if you have a fun image/color.
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Ands that’s all my loves! Let me know what you think in the comments! <3
If you like the look of these template snapshots and you coincidentally need to organize your garden project or any other project that fits the vibe (hehe), you can get it for free! I'll pop the link to it in the comments!
I hope this is helpful-ish!
HUGS!
Anastasia
So... apparently, I got a couple of nondisplaced rib fractures from the accident. I told people, and they didn't believe me. But my body knows. She knows what's up.
✅ Breakfast
✅ Listen to Jay Shetty's podcast with Benny Blanco
✅ Check and reply to school emails
✅ Follow up with medical stuff
✅ Call insurance
✅ Meet with group member for project 1
✅ Therapy
✅ Watch Kaichou wa Maid-Sama!
✅ Group project 1 paper (5 hours? too long to count...)
✅ Group project 1 presentation slides
✅ Group project 1 handout
✅ Group project 1 exam questions
DONE!
Song I ended on 🎧: Out of My Mind - NOEL (I literally heard the song saying "I think I'm losing it" as I closed out my last assignment 💀)
[Ended at 2:35am] My group project has so many parts that I cannot believe I just finished all of these tasks 😭 My teammate was goat. She stayed awake working with me the whole night. Now I just need to take a shower and let my body relax cause I'm in pain...
Took me a while to get back in my groove, but I am grateful for this journey with supportive people so far 🩵
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